The Night Side of LondonRitchie, J. Ewing (James Ewing)
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The Night Side of London
Ritchie, J. Ewing (James Ewing)
London (England) -- Social life and customs -- 19th century
that drop in to smoke a pipe, and the various tribes of gents and bagsmen
on their way home from the city.
Let me say a word on our domestic life. When there is so little
difference between the majority of men and women, why should the line of
demarcation be so severely drawn? We talk very prettily about home,
sweet home, and poets sing its love and purity and charms; and a popular
picture is that which the artist draws when he groups together the
gray-haired grandfather and grandmother, seated by the fire, and father
and mother by their side, and brave lads and graceful girls around
listening, by the warm light of the lamp, to some tale of manly struggle
or Christian chivalry, or lifting up together the glad voice of song.
But why should your son or mine, immediately he goes out into the world
and leaves the parental roof, become a stranger to all this? If the
Englishman’s home be his castle, why should we cast out into the ditch,
to lie down and die in its mire, all who are not of the family? Think of
the thousands and thousands of young men who yearly come up to town,
strangers to every one, and with no chance of getting into female
society, except such as they find at such places as the Eagle. These
women are not lovelier than you meet with in respectable houses—not
better educated nor more correct in their principles; yet, as by natural
instinct one sex seeks the society of the other, we condemn our youth to
the company of such. Paterfamilias is afraid the young men will pay
attention to his daughters. Perhaps the young lady-daughters fancy it to
be beneath them to be civil to their father’s young men. Perhaps the
young men themselves believe that an honourable connexion is beyond their
means, and deliberately pursue a career of vice. In all these cases, in
my humble opinion, very serious blunders are involved. The life of a
bachelor under the circumstances I here allude to is quite as costly as
that of a married man, without the stimulus to exertion which the latter
has. Paterfamilias forgets that the young man he fears may be the suitor
for his daughter’s hand, though he is poor to-day, may be comparatively
rich to-morrow; and the young ladies should remember that it is rather
too much to expect that a young man just entering upon life will be able
to launch out in the same style as those who for thirty or forty years
have been pursuing a successful commercial career. It is our false pride
that eats us up,—that makes us sneer at love in a cottage,—that turns our
women into cross old maids, and our men into gay Lotharios, very
disreputable and, to a certain extent, deliriously gay. I admit that we
have much more outside respectability, but is society the better? Have
we more true happiness? If Wordsworth is correct, “plain living and high
thinking” go together. But our aim is high living, and I fear the
thinking is very, very plain in consequence. We nurse up in our midst,
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