The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
Among associations other than those of family relationship by means of
which the process of displacement is brought about, those depending on
mental or physical similarity are probably the most important; of all
the available methods of transference, they are too, in many respects,
the easiest, most natural and the least liable to cause pathological
aberrations of development. There can be little doubt, too, that the
frequent occurrence of the displacement of the love impulse along
these lines constitutes a factor of very considerable sociological and
historical importance. The tendency to choose a mate resembling in some
essential aspects--mental or physical--one's own nearest relatives,
must, for good or evil, act as a potent means of preserving the purity
of individual types and of family, national or racial qualities;
especially when, as may often happen, there is added to the influence of
this factor that of the narcissistic element of love to which we have
already referred. So long as the associative link which conditions the
displacement is one that has some correspondence to reality, the closer
the unconscious identification of the sexual partner of adult life with
the object loved in infancy, the more likely will it be for this partner
to possess hereditary qualities similar to those of the lover himself, and
the greater therefore, in all probability, the resemblance of the ensuing
offspring to their parents.
[Sidenote: Name]
Among the similarities of a less essential kind which may assist in the
process of displacement, those of _name_ are apt to play an important
but subtle part and one that is very liable to be overlooked or where
observed, ascribed to coincidence rather than (as it more often should
be) to the operation of unconscious mental factors[118]. They are in
some respects a source of danger, inasmuch as they are concerned with
relatively superficial characteristics[119] which have little to do with
the real nature of the person selected, thus making easy the choice of
otherwise unsuitable objects of affection.
[Sidenote: Age]
Similarities with the parents as regards _age_ often exercise some
influence in early years and in the early stages of displacement, but in
later life are less operative than, in view of the intensity of the parent
fixation in some individuals, might perhaps be expected. This is probably
due, to a large extent at any rate, to the fact already referred to, that
the unconscious parent love of adult life has as its object the image of
the parents as they appeared to the child in infancy; these image-parents
being therefore of a considerably younger age than that which the real
parents have actually attained by the time the child has reached maturity.
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