The psycho-analytic study of the familyFlugel, J. C. (John Carl)
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The psycho-analytic study of the family
Flugel, J. C. (John Carl)
Families; Marriage; Parent and child; Psychoanalysis
With men, too, it is possible that an overstrong affection and admiration
for the father may lead to a corresponding result. In these cases we
should expect the homosexuality to be of a deeper and more fundamental
character than that referred to above, the members of the lover's own sex
exercising attraction, as it were, on their own merits, and not merely as
substitutes for the forbidden members of the opposite sex; the objects
selected being correspondingly typical of their own sex, _i. e._ womanly
women and manly men[38]. The existence of such a type of homosexuality
has indeed been demonstrated by Ferenczi[39] (though here, as in most
cases of "types" in psychology, it is probable that the types themselves
are only extreme forms between which there exist an indefinite number of
intermediate characters, the majority of individuals partaking to some
extent of the nature of both types). So far as the evidence goes, however,
it would seem that the fixation of love on the parent of the same sex
plays a lesser part in the development of this kind of homosexuality
than might have been expected; the homosexuality in question being more
frequently and to a greater extent due to a displacement of a primitive
love of self (Narcissism, in psycho-analytic terminology) projected on to
others, so that in loving those of his own sex the individual is directing
his affection to those who, by his unconscious mind, are selected as the
most suitable representatives of his own beloved Ego.
[Sidenote: Idealisation of the loved parent]
It is an important characteristic of the phenomenon of fixation on the
parent, that this parent who is loved in the unconscious is not so much
the parent as he or she actually exists when the child has attained to
adolescence or maturity, but rather the parent as he or she appeared
to the child when young, _i. e._ in the case of the father, a being of
immeasurable strength, wisdom, knowledge, authority and (perhaps) love; in
the case of the mother, one of unsurpassable beauty, tenderness and mercy
and an ever available source of comfort, help and protection in face of
the difficulties and dangers of an unknown and often hostile world. This
idealisation of the loved parent is especially liable to exercise a potent
influence in all cases where the parent in question dies young and is
therefore never subject to the criticism at the hands of his children to
which he would, later on, have inevitably to some extent become exposed.
In any case, however, it is not surprising that in comparison with these
beautiful products of the child's imagination (for we can scarcely doubt
that, here as elsewhere, the passage of time has served to embellish still
further the originally exaggerated estimate of the admirable qualities
of the loved parent) the actual imperfect specimens of humanity who are
available as love objects in the real world have but little power of
attraction[40].
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