4. Do the work at hand (charity at home), and be sure your service harmonizes with your knowledge and your whole life. 5. Never degrade the end by making an _end_ out of the _means_. (Business, athletics, study, must always be means.) _c._ Dare to desire the utmost, unflinchingly: 1. Greatness comes from persistent desire rather than from inborn skill. _d._ Youth and old age: 1. Desire and service can continue throughout life. III. VARIETY AND RHYTHM: _a._ Varied life with single Aim: 1. Concentrate on one thing at a time, but not on one thing all the time. 2. The meaning and worth of Knowledge. 3. Never be bored, or bore: α. Sense of humor; and use of silence. 4. Work and play, exertion and rest, must harmonize: α. Even your pleasures will reflect your character, or taste. _b._ Be a rhythm, a measure, a force like music in the life all about you. [Note.—The fifteenth meeting was spent on Christian Science, and is therefore omitted from the notes.] SIXTEENTH MEETING _Social Relations_ I. THE AVOIDANCE OF BITTER PARTISANSHIP: _a._ Take sides, not with persons, but with causes. _b._ Use all. Be for all, and against none. II. SOCIAL SYMPATHY: _a._ Humanity as a vast Self: 1. Democracy means we have all the right to be equal: α. Faith and reverence for self in all. β. Service is larger self-service. γ. Each does his part; hand and head. 2. To keep well, to be satisfied, we must care for the sick and miserable: α. Starvation. β. Old age. γ. Contagion. _b._ To care for the weak strengthens the strong: 1. To destroy the weak is dangerous loss. (Rome and Sparta.) _c._ In passing judgment on crimes, hate not persons but their acts: 1. Each acts according to his desire or needs. 2. Punishment as preventive and cure. III. TRUTH IN PERSONAL RELATIONS: _a._ Truth-telling not the whole of Truth: 1. Malicious truth-telling is not truth. 2. Worth of kind, true criticism and praise. _b._ Our judgments of people judge us: 1. Our limited understanding. 2. Say: “I am one who hates, or loves,” etc. _c._ Whom shall we please, and how? 1. The morality of good manners. 2. Vanity, the pretended worth; and true worth or loveableness. 3. “Prettiness” in manner, pleasing those who cannot understand us. 4. Social frivolity, overdress and luxury, and its result of friendship. α. Show is for those we do not love. (Resembles “costly material” in art.) [IV. WOMEN AND WORK: _a._ The true preparation for marriage.