Buddhism -- Burma; Burma -- Religion; Burma -- Social life and customs
With this facility for divorce, it is remarkable how uncommon it is. In
the villages and amongst respectable Burmans in all classes of life it
is a great exception to divorce or to be divorced. The only class
amongst whom it is at all common is the class of hangers-on to our
Administration, the clerks and policemen, and so on. I fear there is
little that is good to be said of many of them. It is terrible to see
how demoralizing our contact is to all sorts and conditions of men. To
be attached to our Administration is almost a stigma of
disreputableness. I remember remarking once to a headman that a certain
official seemed to be quite regardless of public opinion in his life,
and asked him if the villagers did not condemn him. And the headman
answered with surprise: 'But he is an official;' as if officials were
quite _super grammaticam_ of morals.
And yet this is the class from whom we most of us obtain our knowledge
of Burmese life, whom we see most of, whose opinions we accept as
reflecting the truth of Burmese thought. No wonder we are so often
astray.
Amongst these, the taking of second, and even third, wives is not at all
uncommon, and naturally divorce often follows. Among the great mass of
the people it is very uncommon. I cannot give any figures. There are no
records kept of marriage or of divorce. What the proportion is it is
impossible to even guess. I have heard all sorts of estimates, none
founded on more than imagination. I have even tried to find out in small
villages what the number of divorces were in a year, and tried to
estimate from this the percentage. I made it from 2 to 5 per cent. of
the marriages. But I cannot offer these figures as correct for any large
area. Probably they vary from place to place and from year to year. In
the old time the queen was very strict upon the point. As she would
allow no other wife to her king, so she would allow no taking of other
wives, no abuse of divorce among her subjects. Whatever her influence
may have been in other ways, here it was all for good. But the queen has
gone, and there is no one left at all. No one but the hangers-on of whom
I have spoken, examples not to be followed, but to be shunned.
But of this there is no manner of doubt, that this freedom of marriage
and divorce leads to no license. There is no confusion between marriage
or non-marriage, and even yet public opinion is a very great check upon
divorce. It is considered not right to divorce your husband or your wife
without good--very good and sufficient cause. And what is good and
sufficient cause is very well understood. That a woman should have a
nagging tongue, that a man should be a drunkard, what could be better
cause than this? The gravity of the offence lies in whether it makes
life unbearable together, not in the name you may give it.
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