The Southern Literary Messenger, Vol. II., No. 10, September, 1836Various
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The Southern Literary Messenger, Vol. II., No. 10, September, 1836
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hurrying on to old age, when marriage can produce nothing but
vexatious consequences.”—Then follows a dissertation upon the second
marriages of widows, too long for me to quote.
The work of Mr. Chausse was written to persuade a gentleman, for whom
he had a high regard, to marry; and he takes up all the possible
objections he could think of in the following order. First, all those
founded upon the conduct of women; second, those upon the nature of
marriage itself; and third, the objection that marriage is an
unsupportable yoke. Under the last head, the author gives the
following directions for making a good marriage. “First, after having
recommended ourselves to God, who presides in a more particular manner
over that state, we make a choice of such a person as pleases us, and
who has an agreeable temper. It would not be unpleasing to have her
handsome; but since 'tis not very common to find such a one, we ought
to be contented if she please us, whether she does others or no; and
that 'tis not always advantageous for the wife to please all the
world: but 'tis not sufficient to be pleased with her beauty, except
there be a sympathy in humors. The author advises us to study the
genius of those we design to marry, that we may the better succeed, in
spite of the address that some make use of to hide their weakness; he
adds, for the better security, that we may choose one that is young,
and resides near our own habitation. In the first place, he advises to
a choice in a well ordered family, and to observe the equality of
condition and fortune, and to take care that she has no such
pre-engagements as may make her marry him by constraint.” (This latter
matter the young ladies now take care of themselves.)
The following is the conclusion of the review. “'Tis a good
observation that the author, who in his book exhorted men to marry,
says not a word to persuade virgins to the same. He well foresaw that
this silence would surprise some of his readers—therefore he has put
them out of pain in the preface, by acquainting them that virgins are
sufficiently convinced of the necessity of marriage, therefore want no
exhortations thereto; 'tis certain, says he, that though a virgin
never proposes marriage, because of her modesty, there is nothing she
so passionately wishes for; her heart often gives her mouth the lie;
she often says I will not, when sometimes she dies for desire.”
My limits will not permit my quoting from any other reviews in the
work, though much instructive and entertaining matter might be culled
therefrom. I must, however, give a few specimens of the Alphabetical
Table at the end of the work, which will give us some idea {655} of
the questions which “the wisdom of our ancestors” was occupied with:
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