The Southern Literary Messenger, Vol. II., No. 8, July, 1836Various
General
The Southern Literary Messenger, Vol. II., No. 8, July, 1836
Various
American literature -- 19th century -- Periodicals
If the general principle of adapting the early education of our
children to the profession we expect them to follow—to the situations
and circumstances in which we think it likely they will be placed—be
correct in every case, where _boys_ are concerned; why, in the name of
common sense, should it be incorrect in regard to _girls_? Are _they
alone_ to be trained for _one thing_, while they are probably destined
for _another_? Is it not the height of cruelty, as well as injustice,
to give them tastes and expectations which can be gratified only for a
few months, perhaps for a year or two, after which they will almost
certainly have to spend the remainder of their lives, however long, in
nearly utter destitution of the opportunities, if not the means also,
to use and to realize these parental gifts? Desperate surely is the
folly, or far above all reason is the wisdom of such a plan; if indeed
the only legitimate plan of all education be—permanently to promote
the real happiness of the individuals educated.
Few, I believe, if any, will deny, that the common fault just pointed
out—of so illy adapting the education of girls to the situations in
which they will probably be placed, deserves all the reprehension
which can be bestowed upon it. But those who are most apt to commit
it, are often guilty of another, if possible still worse. For the same
falsely calculating spirit which neglects to provide for the domestic
happiness of the child, so far as that can be secured by the culture
of tastes, sentiments, and habits suitable for domestic life, will
often exert parental influence and authority, after what _they_ call
education is finished, to wed the poor victims of their mismanagement
to some husband who is deemed a good match, (to use a slang phrase
among matrimonial negotiators,) solely on account of his wealth. After
making it almost absolutely necessary to the happiness of the helpless
daughter that she should marry a man of polished manners, refined
taste and liberal education, she is forcibly united to one entirely
destitute of all these accomplishments—to one who will snore an
accompaniment to her sweetest music—will gaze, if he looks at all,
“with lack-lustre eye,” on her finest paintings; and flee from her
elegant dancing to the gambling house and the bottle: to one in fine
whose capability of participating with her in the pleasures of
reading, or of literary conversation, will probably be but a few
grades above that of the most illiterate clown. Such, alas! is too
often the reward of a fashionable education; especially in cases where
in procuring it, the fortunes of the poor girls have all been expended
with confident anticipations that ample compensation would be found in
the wealth of their future husbands. It not unfrequently happens that
one of the effects of this worldly training is, to make the girls full
as great calculators as their parents in regard to matrimonial
connexions.
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