Lincoln, Abraham, 1809-1865 -- Childhood and youth
About the time Mr. Lincoln was admitted to the bar, Miss Mary Owens, a
bright and beautiful young woman from Kentucky, came to visit her
married sister near New Salem. The sister had boasted that she was going
to "make a match" between her sister and Lawyer Lincoln. The newly
admitted attorney smiled indulgently at all this banter until he began
to consider himself under obligations to marry Miss Owens if that young
lady proved willing.
After he went to live in Springfield, with no home but his office, he
wrote the young lady a long, discouraging letter, of which this is a
part:
"I am thinking of what we said about your
coming to live in Springfield. I am afraid you
would not be satisfied. There is a great deal
of flourishing about in carriages here, which
it would be your doom to see without sharing
it. You would have to be poor without the means
of hiding your poverty. Do you believe that you
could bear that patiently? Whatever woman may
cast her lot with mine, should any ever do so,
it is my intention to do all in my power to
make her happy and contented, and there is
nothing I can imagine that could make me more
unhappy than to fail in that effort. I know I
should be much happier with you than the way I
am, provided I saw no sign of discontent in
you.
"I much wish you would think seriously before
you decide. What I have said, I will most
positively abide by, provided you wish it. You
have not been accustomed to hardship, and it
may be more severe than you now imagine. I know
you are capable of thinking correctly on any
subject, and if you deliberate maturely upon
this before you decide, then I am willing to
abide by your decision.
"Yours, etc.,
"LINCOLN."
For a love letter this was nearly as cold and formal as a legal
document. Miss Owens could see well enough that Lawyer Lincoln was not
much in love with her, and she let him know, as kindly as she could,
that she was not disposed to cast her lot for life with an enforced
lover, as he had proved himself to be. She afterward confided to a
friend that "Mr. Lincoln was deficient in those little links which make
up the chain of a woman's happiness."
THE EARLY RIVALRY BETWEEN LINCOLN AND DOUGLAS
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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