The tribes and castes of the North-Western Provinces and Oudh, Volume 2 (of 4)Crooke, William
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The tribes and castes of the North-Western Provinces and Oudh, Volume 2 (of 4)
Crooke, William
Caste -- India -- History; Hindus -- India; Tribes -- India -- History
13. The dola marriage is done in quite a different way. The following
is the ritual at Ballia. The friends and relations are invited to
attend at the bridegroom’s house, and they are supplied with a meal
known as kalewa, which ordinarily consists of rice and pulse or parched
grain (sattu) or wheat cakes. The men then proceed to the bride’s house
and halt about a mile off to take refreshment. The boy’s father
subscribes twelve pice and the others two pice each with which liquor
is purchased. The sum given by the boy’s father is known as batsâri or
nisâri, and that contributed by his friends behri. After drinking they
go to the bride’s house, which they reach usually about sunset. There
the guardian of the boy pays twenty-four pice, known as neg, to the
father of the bride, who supplements it with sufficient to provide
another drink for the party. Then they are all fed, and next morning
they go away with the bride. The boy’s guardian presents two sheets
(sâri), one for the bride and one for her mother, and gives a couple of
rupees to her father, who in return gives a loin cloth (dhoti) and a
sort of handkerchief worn over the shoulder (kandhâwar) to the boy, as
well as a sheet for his mother. The barber, washerman and village
watchman receive a present of two annas each on this occasion.
Sometimes the owner of the village charges a rupee as marwachh or
marwâna, (mânro, the nuptial shed), which is paid by the father of the
bridegroom, and may perhaps be a survival of a commutation of the jus
primae noctis, but is more probably one of the ordinary village dues
levied from tenants by the landlord. This, however, is not invariably
taken, and in return he usually supplies some wood, etc., for the
wedding. The bride is supplied by her guardian with a sheet (sâri),
brass bracelets (mâthi), and anklets (pairi), made of bell metal. Her
brother or some other person as her representative accompanies her to
the house of the bridegroom. It is a peculiar custom that on this
occasion he always walks behind the bride. In the dola form of marriage
the bridegroom or his father very seldom goes to the house of the
bride. The duty of escorting the bride home is left to some relation or
clansman.
14. After the bride has arrived that very day or very soon after the
date of the wedding (lagan) is fixed. The family barber takes ten
pieces of turmeric, of which he gives five to the bride and five to the
bridegroom. With this he brings one and-a-quarter sers of paddy, which
he divides equally between them. The turmeric is ground into a paste,
which is rubbed on the foreheads of the pair, and the paddy is parched
and made into lawa for use in the ceremony of lawa parachhana. This
part of the ritual is called haldi or haldidhân. The next day or a day
after comes the ceremony of matkor or “the digging of the earth.” This
commences by the bridegroom’s mother worshipping a drum (dhol). If his
mother be dead, this is done by his aunt or some other elderly female
relation.
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