Whether the opinion of genius expressed here is correct or not, does
not, however, affect the general situation. For the genius will always
go his own way, which is never that of the average man. From the point
of view of the ordinary individual an effacement of the spiritual sex
character would be in still higher degree a misfortune for culture and
nature. For it is the difference in the spiritual as well as in the
physical sex-characteristics that makes love a fusion of two beings in a
higher unity, where each finds the full deliverance and harmony of his
being. With the elimination of the _spiritual_ difference _psychical_
love would vanish. There would be left, then, upon the one side, only
the mating instinct, in which the same points of view as in animal
breeding must obtain; on the other, only the same kind of sympathy which
is expressed in the friendship between persons of the same sex, the
sympathy in which the human, individual difference instead of sexual
difference forms the attraction. In love, on the other hand, sympathy
grows in intensity, the more universally human and at the same time
sexually attractive the individual is: the “manly” in man is charmed by
the “womanly” in woman, while the “womanly” in man is likewise
captivated by the “manly” in woman, and _vice versa_. But when neither
needs the _spiritual sex_ of the other as his complement, then man, in
erotic respects, returns to the antique conception of the sex
relationship, of which Plato has drawn the final logical conclusion.
The “humanity” in the soul of man was strengthened when he felt himself
necessary to mother and child. When woman by sweetness and tenderness
taught man to love, not only to desire, then his humanity increased
immeasurably.
In our time the average man is beginning to learn that woman does not
desire him as man, that she looks down upon him as a lower kind of
being, that she does not need him as supporter. He does not at all grasp
what it is the woman of highest culture seeks, demands, and awaits from
his sex. But he learns that even the mediocre woman rejects the best he
has to give her erotically; that imbued as she is with ideals of
“universal humanity,” she no longer needs him as the supplement to her
sexual being. Then brutality awakes in him anew; then his erotic life
loses what humanity it had won; then he begins to hate woman. And not
with the imaginative, theoretical hatred of thinkers and poets; but with
the blind rage which the contempt of the weaker for the stronger arouses
in him. And here we encounter what is, perhaps, the deepest reason for
the present war between the sexes, appearing already in the literary
world as well as in the labour market.
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