she has now gained a frankness, which makes a real interchange of ideas
possible. They discover that they can have something reciprocal for one
another. The father, who perhaps at first sighed when the young faces
vanished out of the home, now admits that it would have been foolish if
the whole troop of girls had continued here at home and so had stood
there at his demise, empty-handed, without professional training. The
mother, who had helped them persuade the father, smiles, when he insists
that he “would not exchange his capable girls for boys.” And he is not
at all afraid that the daughters could not marry if they would; he
remembered indeed how his contemporaries declared that they “would never
look at a girl student, a Blue stocking,” and yet so many of these were
now happily married to—girl students.
Beside these results of the independence of the daughters which elevate
life for all sides, there are opposite cases; when, for example, a
single daughter _without_ outer economic compulsion or inner personal
necessity, impelled only by the current of the time, leaves a home where
her contribution of work could be significant, in order to follow a
vocation outside. The results are often of doubtful value, not only from
a social point of view but also from that of the family and herself,
when the daughter remains at home but carries on a work outside. This
comes partly because they are contented with less pay and thus lower the
wages of those who support themselves entirely; partly because they
over-exert themselves. In those cases where several daughters can share
with one another the domestic duties, no over-exertion results perhaps.
But when a single daughter combines an exacting professional work with
quite as exacting household duties, then she is exhausted by her double
task; then she feels the burden, not the joy, of work. For all
professional working girls who remain at home, have moreover in
addition, even under the most favorable circumstances, the spiritual
strain of turning from work back again to the gregarious demands of the
home, as well as to the many different attractions and repulsions,
antipathies and sympathies which determine the deviations in temperature
of the home; the strain of respecting the sensibilities which must be
spared or of paying attention to the domestic demands which must be
refused, if the work is not to suffer from lack of rest and time for
preparation. All this can be so nerve racking that the young girl is
seized with an irresistible longing for a little home of her own, where
she would be mistress of her leisure time, and could see her own
friends—not alone those of her family,—where she could join those who
held the same views, where she, in a word, would live her life according
to the dictates of her personal demands. If she can, she often does
this. For to-day young girls _live to apply_ the principle of the woman
movement—individualism. The older women’s rights advocates desired, it
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