It fares best in the families, and they are even now numerous, where the
mother herself has studied or worked outside the home and therefore
knows what domestic services she may or may not require; where she
herself personally understands the intellectual occupation of the young
people and has preserved her own youthfulness, so that she becomes not
infrequently the real friend of her daughters and sons. If the mother,
on the contrary, was one of the many who, at the beginning of the woman
movement, sacrificed her own talent to the wishes of her family or the
demands of the home, in spite of the possibilities for its development
made accessible to her at that time, then she has often absolutely no
comprehension of the egoism of her daughter. She herself had acted so
entirely differently! Or she understands fully that in her daughters as
well as in her sons she views the attainment of a new conception of
life, with all its Storm and Stress, which the spring-times in the life
of mankind bring with them—an attainment in which, to her sorrow, she
could not take part in her youth.
At such spring-times youth is not, as the parents hoped, sunlight and
the twittering of birds in the home; but March storms and April clouds.
The parents feel themselves at first swept out, superfluous,
disillusioned. They are angered but rejuvenated, thanks to all the new
points of view that youth makes valid. Yes, father and mother sometimes
could live through a second youth if their own contemporaries did not
depress their buoyancy by their disapproving astonishment and the
children by their cool rejection of the comradeship of their parents.
But in spite of this twofold opposition, there are now fathers and
mothers who are able to enjoy the riches of life quite as youthfully as
and more deeply than their children; while the parents of earlier times,
especially the mother, forever stagnated as early as forty. More and
more frequently we find mothers who, like their daughters, lead a
spiritually rich and emotional life, who have so preserved their
physical youthfulness and who possess moreover through experience and
self-culture so refined a soul-life, that, in regard to the impression
they make, they are not infrequently the rivals of their daughters. They
are already revelations of that type of woman which, in token of
emancipation, has found the equilibrium between the old devoted ideal
and the new self-assertive ideal. They view life from a height which
gives them a survey also over the essential, in questions concerning
their own children. Even if these become something other than the
mothers wish, these mothers are so penetrated with the idea of
individualism that they let the children follow their own course.
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