In America, student life, because of the early entrance of the men into
the professions, becomes more a one-sided, feminine comrade life. There,
the women have to develop their arts of the toilet for each other, whom
they find more interesting, more worthy of pleasing than the masculine
sex. Even in Europe, feminine comradeship in the student years is at
times most intimate. For a friendship between a young girl and a young
man often ends with love—on one side. Or in an intimate circle A has
fallen in love with B, but B with C, etc. Such eventualities the wise
girl will avoid for they can bring both suffering and obstruction to her
work. With women comrades, she has, without this risk, an interchange of
ideas which promotes study, deepens culture, opens up new views, and
gives to all new impulses. There exists, at least at the present time, a
difference between the masculine and feminine method of inquiry, of
solving problems, of apprehending ideas, which results in the fact that
comradeship between women cannot take the place of comradeship between
men and women. It is, however, for deep and beautiful natures often
impossible at the beginning of life to be capable, in a spiritual sense,
of more than a single friendship with their own sex; for each new
spiritual contact becomes a new and difficult problem. For such men or
women a friendship with a comrade of their own sex is often the richest
advantage of their student time. Often a student in good circumstances
finds her joy in taking care of some lonely comrades. They find at her
apartments, in a friendly welcome, a few flowers and pictures, a
teakettle, a fireplace, that feeling of homely warmth for which the
shivering students have longed,—a longing which has often driven a
lonely, impressionable youth from the dreary students’ room to “rough
pleasures.” Now when he leaves the little comrade circle, his sweetest
memories of home, his finest dreams, vibrate in him. And the timid girl
goes in the certainty that there is another girl who is concerned about
her wretched fate.
In such a quiet as also in a more lively comrade life both sexes learn
to know not only each other but also different classes and, in certain
European universities, the several nations. It is not unusual for nine
or ten races to be found represented in one small group of comrades.
Life thus becomes everywhere enriched by strong manifestations or fine
shades of congeniality; spiritual attractions and repulsions cross one
another; inspiring or restraining impressions radiate in all directions.
It would be quite as impossible to estimate the fructifying influence of
such a friendly intercourse as to measure the life which comes into
existence on a spring day filled with the sigh of the wind, the
fluttering of butterflies, and humming of bees.
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