The reaction against this reaction is now in progress. Just now—and
equally one-sided as will be shown later—woman’s universal humanity is
emphasised at the expense of the instinct life; her social labour-duty,
at the expense of the domestic life; her personality, at the expense of
the family.
Among all these zigzag movements, more deeply thoughtful women
continually sought to recall that neither the universal human nor the
sexual being of woman must be over-developed at the expense of the other
qualities of her being; that perfect humanity signifies for neither sex
that the spiritual life has suppressed the sex life or sex, the
soul-life, but that both find in a third higher condition their full
redemption and harmony. Through great love, exceptional natures already
create this condition; but what to-day only exceptional natures attain,
culture can gradually make attainable for many.
This great love demands fidelity. But often only one—ordinarily the
woman—experiences this great feeling. And then not even the deepest
devotion on her part suffices to preserve the community of life. To
preserve the form for the purpose of guarding the inner emptiness, as
was done earlier, is repugnant to the erotic consciousness of the modern
woman. This is the deepest reason why the modern woman—even also the
modern developed man—becomes continually more undecided about
contracting marriage. They both know that the passion which attracts two
beings is not synonymous with a sympathy which arises through the
harmony of their natures, which must not be so complete that nothing
remains of the unexpected and mysterious that is so essential an element
of love. The modern woman asks herself, “What can prove to me that an
erotic sympathy is profound, real, decreed by nature, life-long?” And
she asks with good reason. If two lovers who know that they make each
other happy with all the senses, constrained themselves, each in a
corner of a room fettered to a stool, blindfolded, to entertain each
other three hours daily for three months, this test would probably
prevent a great number of marriages void of sympathy. But it would
furnish no guaranty that those who consummated the marriage after such a
concentrated soul interchange, would hold out. For souls which in a
certain stage of development seem inexhaustible can be so transformed
that they experience only satiety for each other. The young wife of
to-day is deeply conscious of what a new problem for each newly married
woman marriage is. She knows how impossible it is to foresee what
difficulties will be encountered and whether good intentions and tactful
adaptation will succeed in overcoming these difficulties. She knows
that, even if the written law made her wholly equal to man, even if she
made herself that equal by entering only into a marriage of the higher,
newer conscience, yet all the inner, most difficult, deepest problems
still remain. This certainly induces many women to become only the
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