Christian literature for children; Women -- Social and moral questions; Young women -- Conduct of life
A young woman is often induced to marry a man for the sake of his Family
Connections. They are, perhaps, wealthy, and have a high standing in
society, on that account. Or, they are respected for their name and
rank, as descendants of worthy ancestors. The friends deem it "a good
match;" the alliance is desirable on many accounts. Who can think of
rejecting overtures from so eligible a quarter? All this is said and
done with much the same feelings as the crowned heads of the Old World
negociate intermarriages with one another, in cold blood, and as a
business transaction. If the parties are of about equal standing, as
regards their relatives, it is called on each side, "marrying into a
good family," and what more can be desired?
Or, the lady may be raised in the world by connecting herself with a
family superior, in fortune, or rank, to her own. To this surely, it
will be said, no one can object. Were it not folly to lose so fine an
opportunity of entering a renowned circle of relations? In Persia, the
father first of all, selects a family, with whom he wishes to have his
son connected. After this, he makes inquiries about the girl's personal
endowments. Is not something very like this often done in Christian
lands? The leading question, in these cases, is, "What are the
connections?" not, as it should be, the reverse of the practice in
Persia, "Who and what is the individual particularly concerned?" The
character, the principles, the disposition and heart of him, to whom a
lady consigns her whole destiny, are thus actually put out of view, for
the sake of his family! One may see, daily, alliances between
individuals who come together evidently on account of their kindred
alone; and who, for any congruity of disposition, or fitness of traits,
might as well, like the English nobility, have been betrothed in their
cradles.
Many females marry for Personal Distinction. A gentleman is eminent in
the political world, or as an author and scholar, or in military fame,
or for skill and success in his calling; or he shines in fashionable
society. The origin of this practice may sometimes be found in early
education. The parents are ambitious of elevating their daughter by
marriage. They awaken in her hopes and expectations above her condition
in life. They teach her, by their conversation and deportment, if not
directly, that her "being's end and aim" is to rise in the world.
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