Midway between these two extremes in the matter of sexual evolution
may be placed the condition of our primitive South African Boer. If,
in the matter of sexual relationships, he has not attained to the very
highest æsthetic and intellectual standpoint yet reached by human
nature,--if even the transports of the monogamous bird, who pursues
his courtship with a breast swelled out with song, are little known
to him, he is yet very far removed from the level of the barbarian,
or the civilized libertine of our cities. He resembles our block when
in its second stage of complexity, where it passes from its matchable
condition and has not yet reached that stage of organic complexity,
which makes successful mating almost insuperably difficult. Our Boer,
when he seeks a wife, seeks, it is true, not so much the individual as
the woman--but it must be a woman of his own race, class, and stage of
growth; and if his psychic sexual wants are still so simple and uniform
that many a woman of his own class may satisfy them, they still exist.
The woman whom he places in the elbow-chair of his house, must share
his simple religion, his ancestral view of life and its right ordering,
must be able to instruct his children in those simple matters in which
he was himself instructed, and to order his household with dignity;
and, simple as these needs are, they are imperative. It is _not_ as a
merely physical companion, and still less a sexual slave, whom he seeks
to rule for his own pleasure, that he desires her: undoubtedly his sex
relations are on the whole dominated by less crudely primitive instinct
than those of the larger numbers of the sex unions, both legal and
illegal, which are formed in our nineteenth-century societies, however
much they may in certain matters fall below the highest ideal.
His system of sex relations has generally two vast advantages: it is
healthy, and it is just.
It is healthy, in that it is in harmony with his whole mental and
material condition.
We who are habituated to living in societies in a state of rapid
growth and development, in which as a result certain individuals
under the stimulus of new conditions attain to the highest stage of
psychic development, while others remain in the most primitive; and who
possess, bound up in one body social, persons in a hundred different
stages of culture; we, who are accustomed to feel that the harmonizing
of our institutions and manners with the needs of our enormously varied
social units constitutes an always pressing and almost overpowering
difficulty, and who are accustomed to feel this above all in matters
of sex--we find it difficult to conceive of the existence of a society
which has no social problems, and, above all, no sex problems--yet this
is very nearly the state of the primitive Boer.
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