Associations of this nature are much more common in connection with funerals than with weddings, yet they are not unknown for the latter purpose. A family, for example, wishes to marry a son on a scale which the family resources will not warrant. It then resorts to an expedient, which is called "drawing friends by means of other friends." Let us suppose that it is desired to raise the sum of 100,000 cash. A hundred cards of invitation are prepared, ten of which are sent to ten friends of the family, who are invited to a preliminary feast. These friends receive the extra cards of invitation, and each one gives a card to nine other "friends" of his own, who agree to attend the wedding in question, each one bringing with him as a share a string of cash. By this means a family with little wealth and few connections is able suddenly to blossom out at a wedding with a hundred guests (many of whom nobody knows), and all expenses are provided for by the liberal contribution of the "friends," and of the friends of the "friends." The only motive for the act, on the part of the original "friends" is friendship, and the gustatory joy of the wedding feast. The only motives for the friends of the "friends," are their friendship, and the same joyful feast. It is needless to observe that the 100,000 cash thus suddenly raised is a _debt_, which the family receiving it must repay in future contributions. To a Westerner, it doubtless appears a preposterous proceeding to saddle a family with a liability of this sort, for the mere sake of a temporary display. But love of display is by no means confined to the Chinese, although doubtless they are satisfied with manifestations of it which to us are far from being attractive. It is a characteristic in the Chinese conduct of affairs, to make heavy drafts on the future in order to satisfy a present need. Many a family will sell all their land, and even pull down their house, to provide for a funeral of a parent, because to bury the deceased without a suitable display would be a loss of "face." And this irrational procedure is executed with an air of cheerfulness and of conscious virtue, which seems to say, "Behold me! I will do what is becoming at any personal inconvenience whatever!"