When You Don't Know Where to Turn: A Self-Diagnosing Guide to Counseling and TherapyBartlett, Steven J.
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When You Don't Know Where to Turn: A Self-Diagnosing Guide to Counseling and Therapy
Bartlett, Steven J.
Consumer education; Counseling; Psychotherapy
Breath counting is one way to train your mind to control and focus
attention. The object is to be doing one thing, and one thing only,
becoming fully involved in that single purpose. Start by finding a
comfortable position, sitting or lying down. Place a clock or watch
where you can see it without having to turn your head. Usually with
eyes closed, you then begin to count your breaths, silently: "one" as
you slowly exhale the first breath, two as you exhale the second, etc.
After you get to "four" start with "one" again. The purpose is to be
doing _only_ this, only breathing and counting. You will quickly find
that your mind rebels; it will stray and wander whenever your
concentration and attention falter. It is a recalcitrant entity. You
will be doing well in the beginning if you can succeed for only a few
seconds {225} at a time in being conscious _only_ of your counting.
Distractions will subvert your will in a split second. You will find
yourself thinking of a host of things: what to do tomorrow morning,
whether you are doing well or badly at meditation, whether it is silly
to be doing this, what's for dinner, taxes, work, or that itch on your
forehead. Again and again you will have to return your mind to the
task at hand. Very quickly, you'll begin to realize that meditation
_is_ hard work. It is frustrating and demanding.
Practice doing this for fifteen minutes a day. After a few weeks,
increase to twenty minutes. After another four weeks, spend
twenty-five to thirty minutes a day. Once you can do this, continue to
practice daily for another month. It will take that long before you
will begin to sense whether this approach to meditation is going to be
useful to you.
_The Meditation of Contemplation_
This is an alternative approach to meditation. Again, the purpose is
to discipline your mind by means of focused attention. In this
approach, you try to focus attention on a physical object. Pick a
natural object--a shell, a small stone, a pressed leaf. Now, with the
object a foot or two from you, simply _look_ at it. The purpose is to
look at the object actively, to keep your attention fixed on it, but to
be wakeful and alert. Do not stare at one place on the object or
strain your eyes. Explore the object, _look_ at it, attend to it. As
usual, you'll find plenty to distract you--stiffness, the need to move,
sleepiness, slipping into thinking about problems you need to solve.
Each time your mind drifts out of track, gently bring your attention
back to the object. Try this for ten minutes a day for two weeks, then
fifteen minutes a day for a month, then twenty minutes for the next
month. By then, you will know if this approach will help you. Be
prepared for some effective sessions and some discouraging ones.
Remember that no one said meditation would be easy.
_The Meditation of the Bubble_
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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