I am not disposed to quote the Frenchwomen of a century or so ago as
models. But there are many points we might take from them in the art
of making a social life on intellectual lines agreeable, as well as a
vital force. When women who are neither young nor beautiful dominate
an age of brilliant men through intellect and tact, it does no harm
to study their methods a little in an age when women of equal talent,
superior education, and finer moral aims succeed to only a limited
extent in doing more than stimulate one another--a good thing to do,
but not final. Those women, too, had old distinctions to reconcile,
and a powerful court for a rival. They had one advantage, as they made
a cult of esprit, which is a gift of their race, while we make a cult
of knowledge, which may be more substantial, but is less luminous, and
not so available socially. Besides, knowledge is a thing to be acquired
and not caviar to mediocrity, which is apt to use it crudely, and with
pretension. “Let your studies flow into your manners, and your readings
show themselves in your virtues,” said Mme. de Lambert. I am sorry to
say that the typical Frenchwoman of a hundred years ago did not always
take so exalted a view of her duties; but even as a matter of taste
she had too delicate a sense of proportion to merge the woman in the
intellect. She scattered about her the flavor of knowledge rather than
the knowledge itself; which is not so easy, as one does not have the
real flavor of knowledge without the essence of it, and something more.
Rare natural gifts have a distinction of their own, but in ordinary
life what one _is_ counts for more than what one _knows_, and
the secret of attraction lies rather in the sum of the qualities which
we call character than in the acquirements. A woman may be familiar
with Sanskrit, and calculate the distance of the fixed stars, without
being interesting, or even admirable, as a woman. The main point is to
preserve one’s symmetry, and one’s center of gravity; then, the more
knowledge the better. It may be that the flaw in our ideals lies just
here, and that in the too exclusive pursuit of certain things fine in
themselves, we neglect other things equally if not more vital.
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