expensive, which was worse, since men preferred to spend their money on
themselves--a state of affairs toward which a certain class is rapidly
drifting to-day, if it is not there already. Statesmen began to be
alarmed. “If it were possible to do without wives, great cares would
be spared us,” said Metellus in an address to the Senate; “but since
nature has decreed that we cannot live without a wife, nor comfortably
with one, let us bear the burden manfully, and look to the perpetuity
of the State rather than to our own satisfaction.” It never seems to
have occurred to these consistent descendants of Adam to consider
the burdens of the woman at all. On her side, a rich woman hesitated
to take a master, if she was independent enough to have any choice,
which was rare, and without a dowry she was quite sure of finding a
capricious one, who would not scruple to neglect her. Some guaranties
she must have, and these men did not like to give. So men and women
alike combined against the existing order of things, men for the right
to do precisely as they pleased, women for the right of choice in
husbands and of breaking chains when they became intolerable.
It has often been stated, by moralists over-anxious to make out a
case, that this aversion to marriage, on the part of men, was due to
the laxity of women. Of this I do not find any evidence. It was due
in part to the restrictions already mentioned, and in part to the
increasing luxury which, added to the long habit of absolute power,
led to impatience of any domestic obligations, and a riot of the
senses, as it has always done, before and since. Besides, there were
the brilliant Oriental women who began to flock to Rome, bringing with
them Hellenic tastes, with subtle fascinations that stole away the
hearts of men and threatened a state of affairs similar to that which
existed in Athens. This the spirited Roman women could not tolerate. To
be thrust by strangers into a secondary place was not to be thought of
by these proud patricians, who refused to put themselves in a position
where such neglect was possible. They began to realize that the old
virtues did not suffice to hold men’s wandering fancies. It was very
well to carve on a woman’s tombstone, as a last word of praise, an
epitaph like this: “Gentle in words, graceful in manner; she loved her
husband devotedly; she kept her house, she spun wool.” But what availed
it when this husband left her to the companionship of her duties and
her virtues, while he gave what he called his affections to those who
had fewer virtues and more accomplishments? It was not laxity of
morals, but lack of intelligence and culture, that stood in the way
of the Roman woman in the days when Greek literature, Greek art, and
Greek refinement first came into fashion. That she protested against
traditions which made it superfluous, if not dangerous, to cultivate
her intellect, may fairly be assumed. But she had a powerful ally. On
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