The Khoja woman is hidden in seclusion behind the _purdah_. The few
that are to be seen are as a rule somewhat below the middle height and
are of a graceful, but not altogether healthy, slightness. They are
well educated and are good housekeepers, known for their neatness and
management. As Mussulmans they are of course married under a system of
free contract, but unfortunately for them Hindu tradition has been too
strong, and they suffer in practice from many of the disabilities of
their Hindu sisters. Remarriage after widowhood is in practice almost
unknown; and divorce is so discountenanced that its relief is seldom
sought. On the other hand, the ascetic idea is at least absent, and a
wife expects and a husband is prepared to give constant attention and
all possible comfort. They have a force of character which merits this
attention; and their features, with arched head and broad forehead,
strong chin, and large lustrous eyes, are the index of their character.
Of other trading classes of Mussulmans, the Memans, also converts from
Hindu castes in Sind, Káthiawád and Cutch, deserve notice, if only for
their charity and piety. All Memans, women as well as men, hope to
perform the pilgrimage to Mecca and habitually visit the Chisti Shrine
at Ajmer. And for their large secret charities the women, no less than
the men, have a well-deserved reputation.
Among the large body of middle-class Mussulmans of the usual Sunni
sects, those who claim to be descended from foreign invaders and
who are at least not directly traceable to any special wholesale
conversion, the position of women is on the whole satisfactory and
agreeable. Every family has its poor relations and dependants so
that, even when she is childless, the mistress of the house is seldom
lonely. The morning she spends at her toilet and in seeing to the
day’s marketings and looking to the kitchen. At meals all the family,
men and women alike, meet and eat together. Sometimes, even, a
much-favoured friend of the husband’s, a trusted and intimate friend,
may be introduced to the inner, unveiled circle. After the midday meal,
a rest; then sewing and talking; then games of backgammon and chess
make the afternoon pass. The evening dinner then needs looking to,
and after dinner it is common to hear or read tales and romances or
religious books. Children may also take up much of the woman’s time;
and among Mussulmans as a rule the wife may count upon a loving, almost
a passionate, husband, except in the unhappy cases where differences of
temperament produce a real antipathy. In that case she can always try
to force a divorce from his hands, though the practice varies with the
social circle. That the pressure of Indian influences has forced upon
them child-marriage, followed only too often by premature consummation;
that the intentions of the Prophet in regard to divorce and widowhood
have often been neglected; and that the rule of veiling has been
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