Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
Painters, while at work on a residence, climbed up and down a tall
ladder extending to the roof. When the owner of the house returned home
from business he was met by his five-year-old son who, pointing to
the ladder, said proudly, “Papa, I climbed to the top of that ladder
today.” It was physically impossible for a child of such tender years
to accomplish this feat. His statement was not true but the child had
not lied. With intense admiration he had watched the painters climb the
ladder until in boyish fancy he himself was playing this heroic and
dangerous rôle. All day long he had marveled at the feat in which he
pictured himself placing the principal part, until his obsession became
a conviction. The actual facts photographed themselves in a blur on the
poor film of his brain, already impressed with the clear-cut picture of
his imagination, until the composite result was a mental image in which
fancy predominated. If a lie is the voluntary and conscious perversion
of the truth, he did not lie. An untruth is a misstatement of fact due
to ignorance or misconception. He was not conscious of a misstatement
of fact because he stated the facts as his mental processes recalled
them. His inability to distinguish between the real and the unreal
resulted in an error for which he was not morally responsible. He
related the incident as a fact because his brain, powerfully impressed
by the fancy, believed it to be a fact; therefore the boy told it as a
fact.
Fancy is a fairy, that can hear,
Ever, the melody of nature’s voice,
And see all lovely visions that she will.
--FRANCES S. OSGOOD.
When his mental development advances to a stage where he can
differentiate clearly between fact and fancy; when the maturity of his
mind enables him to draw clearer distinction between the real and the
unreal, when, in a word, imagination is superseded by reason, then
such errors will be impossible. His mistake was mental--not moral.
Therefore, he was not culpable. I knew a loving mother who washed
out her child’s mouth with soap as punishment for a similar “lie.”
No graver injustice can be perpetrated by a parent than punishment
for such an alleged offense. It should be recognized and accepted as
an incident which is natural to mental immaturity. The thought is
expressed by Dr. G. Stanley Hall in these words: “Sometimes their fancy
is almost a visualization and develops a kind of mythopic faculty which
spins clever yarns and suggests a sense, quite as pregnant as Froschmer
asserts of all mental activity and of all universe itself, that all
their life is imagination.” But I hear a mother, holding up her hands
in horror, exclaiming, “I cannot let my child prevaricate! I must
punish him or the habit will become fixed.”
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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