Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
With our present-day scientific knowledge of the boy, as distinguished
from our personal knowledge of him in the past, we recognize the
trend of tendencies and understand the portent of symptoms which
formerly were either unnoticed or disregarded. We have brought minute
investigation, analysis, and cold logic into the solution of his
problems over which we were wont to blunder. We have made no greater
blunders in the past than those we have committed in connection with
the corrective measures which it has been the custom of certain parents
to employ. The necessity for physical punishment has been superseded by
persuasive methods based on a more accurate understanding of the boy’s
mental and moral processes and his impulses for good and bad.
Love, sympathy, and justice beget loyalty where fear fails. Moral
suasion, mental development, the cultivation of will-power, the appeal
to reason, the deprivation of liberties and privileges, rewards for
merit, the exhibition of love, insight and sympathy, the use of tact
and the honor system, all are effective substitutes for physical
chastisement.
The preponderating weight of authority among sociologists and
penologists supports the view that the attitude of the parent toward
his filial offender and of the state toward the adult misdemeanant
should be on the one hand formatory and on the other reformatory--but
never punitory.
The desire to avoid punishment which the prospective recipient regards
as unjust, whether rightly or wrongly does not matter, results in the
concoction of many ingenious stories and schemes. Again the author
draws on his own boyhood experience for an illustration. At the age
of nine I was threatened by my mother with a severe switching for an
offense the nature of which has long since been forgotten. The timely
arrival of callers postponed the dreaded event and afforded me ample
time for reflection. The anticipatory torture which I suffered during
the hour preceding their departure was greater punishment than the
actuality.
My mental processes during that hour were these: “I didn’t do anything
very bad. I don’t deserve a whipping for it. I am sorry for what I have
done and won’t do it again. It’s unfair to whip me for such a little
thing. How can I escape this unjust licking?” At last, after long and
labored mental effort, I evolved a scheme which to my youthful mind
seemed the last word in ingenuity and effectiveness; it would appeal
to her pity and give her an object lesson she would never forget. My
plan was to obtain some oatmeal from the pantry, chew it until my mouth
was filled with froth and saliva and at the first blow of punishment I
would fall to the floor in simulation of unconsciousness, frothing at
the mouth.
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