It is not marriage or maternity which educated women are shunning; but they are declining to view marriage as their sole vocation or to become merely child-bearing animals. Let us not worry about the destiny of college women.[820] It is simply wrong wedlock which they are avoiding. They have, suggests Muirhead, a careful regard for the "kind" of marriage. They are determined to have only "the genuine article." They "look in marriage not only for the old fashioned 'union of hearts,' but for the union of heart and head in some serious interest which will survive the mere attractions of sex and form a solid bond of union even in the absence of others which, like the birth of children, depend on fortune." So "far from being hostile" to the family, "they are only preparing the way for a purer and more beneficent form of family life." The "maternal instinct is happily not confined to the uneducated."[821] The rise of a more refined sentiment of love has become at once a check and an incentive to marriage.[822][820] See especially the excellent paper of MARY ROBERTS SMITH, "Statistics of College and Non-College Women," _Pub. of the Am. Stat. Assoc._, VII, 1-26, whose conclusions support the view taken in the text; and SIDGWICK, _Health Statistics of Women Students of Cambridge and Oxford and Their Sisters_ (Cambridge, 1890), who reaches similar general results. _Cf._ THWING, "What Becomes of College Women?" _North Am. Rev._, CLXI, 546-53, taking a very favorable view of the influence of higher education on woman in her domestic relations; and SHINN, "The Marriage Rate of College Women," _Century_, L, 946-48. Consult also the articles of F. M. ABBOTT, C. S. ANGSTMAN, G. E. GARDNER, and F. FRANKLIN mentioned in the Bibliographical Index, IV; and read CLARA E. COLLET'S "Prospects of Marriage for Women," _Nineteenth Century_, XXXI, 537-52. [821] MUIRHEAD, "Is the Family Declining?" _Int. Jour. of Ethics_, Oct., 1896, 47-50. [822] There are many reasons why all persons do not marry. Among these is a loftier ideal of love. "Persons often live single a whole life-time because they are unable to obtain the only one in the world for whom they can ever experience a throb of pure passion.... We see then that this more diffused and elevated form of love becomes at once the greatest incentive and the greatest barrier to marriage. It differs wholly from the localized passion in being _selective_. While it is less selfish, it must be called out by, and exclusively directed toward, one definite object. From this circumstance it may be called the _objective_ form of love."--WARD, _Dynamic Sociology_, I, 626.