A phase of life which had never before troubled me began to occupy
considerable of my thought. My attention was drawn to the women
question by the talk of the football men. There were two very distinct
groups among the athletes; the Y.M.C.A. men and the others. It was
inevitable that I should feel hostile to the former. They used the
phrases, spoke the language of the Camp Meeting. With great pain and
travail I had fought my way free from all that. Many of them were
perhaps estimable fellows, I do not know. I did not get well acquainted
with any of them. But I was surprised to find myself often ill at ease
with the others. Their talk was full of vague hints which I seldom
understood. They had come to college very much more sophisticated than
I. In the quest for manly wisdom, I read a book on sex-matters, which I
found in my fraternity house.
It taught me very little. I have seen dozens of such books since and I
cannot understand the spirit in which they are written. In the effort
to be clean spirited and scientific the authors have fallen over
backwards and have told their readers almost nothing at all. It was
like a book which described the mechanism of a printing press without
one word about its use or place in life. A printing press is a very
lifeless thing unless one has some comprehension that not so much in
itself but in its vast utility it is the most wonderful thing which man
has made. The book which fell into my hands, described in detail, in
cold blooded and rather revolting phraseology, the physiology of sex,
but it gave no hint of its psychologic or social significance, it did
not even remotely suggest that sooner or later everyone who read it
would have to deal with sex as a problem of personal ethics. It was a
poor manual for one just entering manhood.
I had never been told anything about sex. I judged from the witticisms
of the gymnasium that the others had discussed these matters a great
deal in their preparatory schools. And with the added knowledge of
later years, I am persuaded that my school had been unusually clean
spirited. I never heard the boys talking of such things, and if any of
them were getting into bad habits, they did it privately.
These college men boasted. Of course I hid my ignorance with shame. As
the football season wore on the talk became more explicit. Some of the
team, after the Thanksgiving Day game, with our rival college, which
ended the season, were "going into town to raise hell." The Y.M.C.A.
men expected to "come right home." A week or so before the last game,
Bainbridge, our captain and a senior, showed some of us a letter which a
girl in town had written him. The other fellows who saw the letter
thought it hilariously funny. To me it seemed strange and curious. A
woman, who could have written it was something entirely foreign to my
experience.
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