Yet the fact that all individuals of both sexes, when infants and
children, are dependent, and can gain satisfaction and relaxations of
tensions of desire never by means of their own acts but only by means
of the acts of others, makes it quite evident that there will be a
tendency, stronger in some than in others, to get in post-pubertal life
their satisfactions via the old route—the satisfactions that come from
having things done to them and not from doing things for other people
and observing the results.
There are two sources of satisfaction in every human, the infantile one
which may be called passive and the adult male which may be called the
active source or the source of satisfaction from the effects of one’s own
action.
§ 27
It is not to be overlooked that the satisfaction derived from the effect
of one’s own action may be due to an unconscious magnifying of these
effects. Those who have a slight degree of discriminative ability will
think that their acts and the results of their acts are fine, whether
they are or not, and may remain in the same illusion throughout their
lives. They may never become disillusioned. I may continue to believe
that the effects produced on my readers are deep and far-reaching
whether they are or not. But if I were content to read books and listen
to lectures and felt no desire to write and to influence others or
to persuade them to see things as I see them I should derive all my
satisfactions via the route of passive experiences.
There is a fundamental difference, then, between the essentially
masculine and the essentially feminine type of character, according as
the individual gets his satisfactions—the relaxations of his tensions of
desire—via the route of feelings caused in him by the action of others
or via the route of feelings caused in him by the true and illusionless
perception that he has produced effects in other persons or in other
things.
The rearrangement of values is the transition from a frame of mind in
which the satisfactions are via the “passive” route to those via the
active route. This rearrangement need never, for any biological reason,
take place in a woman who is properly mated. If she be married but
not mated by a male individual who has not made the above-mentioned
transition, she will herself tend toward getting her satisfaction via the
“active” or “male” route. In other words, rather than have nothing, she
deludes herself into thinking she has something by getting a cheapened
substitute, by becoming husband to her husband, who in turn becomes wife.
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