A Portraiture of Quakerism, Volume 1: Taken from a View of the Education and Discipline, Social Manners, Civil and Political Economy, Religious Principles and Character, of the Society of FriendsClarkson, Thomas
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A Portraiture of Quakerism, Volume 1: Taken from a View of the Education and Discipline, Social Manners, Civil and Political Economy, Religious Principles and Character, of the Society of Friends
Clarkson, Thomas
Society of Friends
This custom, however, of drinking toasts after dinner, is, like the
former of drinking healths at dinner, happily declining. It is much to
the credit of those, who move in the higher circles, that they have
generally exploded both. It may be probably owing to this circumstance,
that though we find persons of this description labouring under the
imputation of levity and dissipation, we yet find them respectable for
the sobriety of their lives. Drunkenness indeed forms no part of their
character, nor, generally speaking, is it a vice of the present age as
it has been of former ages; and there seems to be little doubt, that in
proportion as the custom of drinking healths and toasts, but more
particularly the latter, is suppressed, this vice will become less a
trait in the national character.
There are one or two customs of the Quakers, which I shall notice before
I conclude this chapter.
It is one of the fashions of the world, where people meet in company,
for men and women, when the dinner is over, to drink their wine
together, and for the women, having done this for a short time, to
retire. This custom of the females withdrawing after dinner was probably
first insisted upon from an idea, that their presence would be a
restraint upon the circulation of the bottle, as well as upon the
conversation of the men. The Quakers, however, seldom submit to this
practice. Men and women generally sit together and converse as before
dinner. I do not mean by this that women may not retire if they please,
because there is no restraint upon any one in the company of the
Quakers; nor do I mean to say, that women do not occasionally retire,
and leave the men at their wine. There are a few rich families, which,
having mixed more than usual with the world, allow of this separation.
But where one allows it, there are ninety-nine, who give wine to their
company after dinner, who do not. It is not a Quaker-custom, that in a
given time after dinner, the one should be separated from the other sex.
It is a pity that the practice of the Quakers should not have been
adopted by others of our own country in this particular. Many advantages
would result to those, who were to follow the example. For if women were
allowed to remain, chastity of expression and decorum of behaviour would
be more likely to be insured. There presence also would operate as a
check upon drunkenness. Nor can there be a doubt, that women would
enliven and give a variety to conversation; and, as they have had a
different education from men, that an opportunity of mutual improvement
might be afforded by the continuance of the two in the society of one
another.
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