A Preliminary Study of the Emotion of Love between the SexesBell, Sanford
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A Preliminary Study of the Emotion of Love between the Sexes
Bell, Sanford
Child psychology; Love
Case 2. In a case that continued from seven to thirteen the
writer says: “I wanted to stand by him in the game, but would
never make the effort to get the situation--although it always
came about. He sent me very pretty valentines, but was very
careful that I should not find out who sent them. When we met on
the street we would both blush, and a strange feeling would
possess me that I did not have on any other occasion. My bliss
was complete when I was walking down the street and he overtook
me--although we could say nothing to each other.”
Case 3. B. 9, g. 11. Boy very much annoyed by the fact that the
girl was two years older. He thought that the husband ought
always to be older, and “looked forward to the time when I should
make her my wife. It was in secret, however, and I was always
fearful lest some one should find it out. The girl probably never
bestowed a thought upon me. I was very shy in her presence, and
if she spoke to me or addressed me in any manner my tongue clove
to the roof of my mouth, making it almost impossible for me to
answer. I dreamed about her night after night, and upon hearing
her name mentioned I would become confused and nervous.” This
continued from nine to fifteen, and developed into a genuine case
of adolescent love.
Case 4. B. 11, g. 9. Boy would come to take the girl to their
little parties--but would never walk on the same side of the
street with her. The girl writes: “We were very much afraid of
each other, and yet we weren't. When we were together we never
would speak to each other if we could help it, but when we were
apart we wrote notes constantly.”
Case 5. “I was very much in love with a boy when I was between
seven and nine years of age. I always felt hurt if he chose any
one else in the games. I was very much embarrassed if this boy's
name was mentioned in the presence of my mother or brothers. I
didn't mind their teasing me about any other boy. I felt none of
this embarrassment in the presence of my sympathetic playmates.”
Case 6. An eight-year-old boy contemplated suicide because his
sweetheart moved into another neighborhood. He would not tell her
that he loved her. Wanted to give her a present, but feared she
would divine the truth.
Case 7. From a woman's confessions, referring to her love at nine
years of age: We never used the word _love_, it was always
_like_. I think we felt afraid of _love_. I think we had no
definite idea of marriage, we lived completely in the present.
However, I felt in a dim way that we were always to be together.
Case 8. From a man's confessions: “I never told any one that I
loved the girl, and did not even want the girl to know it. I was
satisfied to be in sight of the girl. I was nine and she was
ten.”
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