London (England) -- Social life and customs -- 19th century
Sir Cresswell Cresswell must have but a poor opinion of matrimony. At
the very moment of my writing, I am told there are six hundred divorce
cases in arrear; that is, after the hundreds whose chains he has
loosened, there are, it appears, already twelve hundred more of injured
wives and husbands eager to be free. The evil, such as it is, will
extend itself. Under the old system there was, practically speaking, no
redress, and a man and woman tied together would endeavour to make the
best of it; now, if they feel the more they quarrel and disagree with
each other, the better chance they have of being at liberty, it is to be
feared, in some cases, husband and wife will not try so heartily to
forget and forgive, as husbands and wives ought to do. I do not say
there ought not to be liberty, where all love has long since died out,
and been followed by bad faith and cruelty, and neglect. I believe there
should be, and that the Divorce Act was an experiment imperatively
required. Where mutual love has been exchanged for mutual hate, it is
hard that human law should bind together, in what must be life-long
misery—misery perhaps not the less intense that it has uttered no word of
complaint, made no sign, been unsuspected by the world, yet all the while
dragging its victim to an early or premature grave. But human nature is
a poor weak thing, and many a silly man or silly woman may think that Sir
Cresswell Cresswell may prove a healing physician, when their malady was
more in themselves than they cared to believe. I hear of one case where
a lady having £15,000 a-year in her own right, has run off with her
footman. Would she have done that if there had been no Sir Cresswell? I
fancy not. Again, another married lady, with £100,000 settled on her,
runs off with the curate. Had it not occurred to her that Sir Cresswell
Cresswell would, in due time, dissolve her union with her legitimate
lord, and enable her to follow the bent of her passions, would she not
have fought with them, and in the conquest of them won more true peace
for herself, than she can ever hope for now? I believe so. In the long
commerce of a life, there must be times, when we may think of others we
have known, when we may idly fancy we should have been happier with
others; but true wisdom will teach us that it is childish to lament after
the event, that it were wiser to take what comfort we can find, and that,
after all, it is duty, rather than happiness, that should be the
pole-star of life. Southey told Shelley a man might be happy with any
woman, and certainly a wise man, once married, will try to make the best
of it. But to return to Sir Cresswell Cresswell, I wish that he could
give relief without stirring up such a pool of stinking mud. Who is
benefitted by the disgusting details? It is a fine thing for the penny
papers. They get a large sale, and so reap their reward. The _Times_,
also, is generally not very backward when anything peculiarly revolting
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