London (England) -- Social life and customs -- 19th century
and indecent is to be told; but are the people, high or low, rich or
poor, the better? I find it hard to believe they are. How husbands can
be false, how wives can intrigue, how servants can connive, we know, and
we do not want to hear it repeated. If Prior’s Chloe was an ale-house
drab, if the Clara of Lord Bolingbroke sold oranges in the Court of
Requests, if Fielding kept indifferent company, we are amused or grieved,
but still learn something of genius, even from its errors; but of the
tribe Smith and Brown I care not to hear—ever since the Deluge the Smiths
and Browns have been much the same. What am I the better for learning
all the rottenness of domestic life? Is that fit reading for the family
circle? I suppose the newspapers think it is, but I cannot come to that
opinion. Can it have a wholesome effect on the national feeling? Can it
heighten the reverence for Nature’s primary ordinance of matrimony?
In the Book of Common Prayer I read that matrimony is “holy;” that it was
instituted of God in the time of man’s innocency, signifying unto us the
mystical union that is between Christ and his Church, which holy estate
Christ adorned and beautified with his presence and first miracle that he
wrought in Cana of Galilee; and is commended of St. Paul to be honourable
among all men, and, therefore, is not by any to be enterprised, “nor
taken in hand unadvisedly, lightly, or wantonly, to satisfy men’s carnal
lusts or appetites, like brute beasts that have no understanding; but
reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God, duly
considering the causes for which matrimony was ordained.”
Alas! our age is not a marrying age; and, therefore, I fear it is an
unholy one: neither our young men nor our young maidens honestly fall in
love and marry now-a-days. I don’t know that the Registrar-General’s
report says such. I know that many of his marriages are affairs of
convenience; unions of businesses, or thousands, or broad lands; not
marriages “holy,” in the sense of the prayer-book and of God. A man who
marries simply for love, exposes himself to ridicule; the modern
ingenuous youth is not so green as all that; if he marries at all, it
must be an heiress, or, at any rate, one well dowered. The last thing
your modern well-bred beauty does, is to unite her fate with that of a
man in the good old-fashioned way. She has learnt to set her heart upon
the accidents of life,—the fine house, the establishment; and if these
she cannot have, she will even die an old maid. The real is sacrificed
to the imaginary; the substance, to the shadow; the present, to the
morrow that never comes. A man says he will become rich; he will
sacrifice everything to that; and the chances are he becomes poor in
heart and purse. The maiden—
With the meek brown eyes,
In whose orb a shadow lies,
Like the dusk in evening skies—
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