Shall we therefore put this word back in the Latin dictionary, and
speak not of adolescence but of youth? But the word youth hardly takes
into account the bodily changes which occur between childhood and adult
life. We are concerned here with the schoolroom years, the threshold
years, say, from 14 to 18. All of us, when we think seriously about
boys and girls from 14 to 18 years old, have at the back of our minds
the thought of sex. And you must forgive me, if I use very plain words
this evening: for I hope and believe that you will prefer, from a man
of my profession, plain speaking to roundabout phrases.
My theme is adolescence: I have no right to talk about small children.
But how can I help myself? Boys and girls begin to be vaguely conscious
of sex, long before they are 14; some of them get into unclean habits,
or say unclean things, when they are nearer to 4 than they are to 14;
indeed, they may get into unclean habits before they are 4. If we are
to understand the schoolroom, we must first understand the nursery.
Children, by the time that they are 14, are what those 14 years have
made them, with our assistance, or with our neglect.
But, as all of us are well aware, no two children are exactly alike
in this matter. The differences between them are finely graduated;
but the extremes of difference are miles apart. Some children are
wholly incurious about sex; some are slightly inquisitive, some are
very inquisitive, and some, but very few, not one in a thousand, are
downright vicious and obsessed.
We are too ready, it may be, to give all our praise to those who are
wholly incurious; we call them healthy-minded, pure-minded, and so
forth. We admire them because they take no interest in this part
of their natural life, just as we admire them because they take no
interest in the working of their brains and their digestive organs. But
there is nothing very admirable in this blank indifference toward the
affairs of the body; it is good common sense, but we ought to think
twice before we regard it as a virtue: it is altogether negative, and
virtues are something positive. We can safely afford to keep some of
our admiration for the children who are inquisitive. Besides, we have
no business to put the possession of sex on a level with the possession
of digestive organs. The facts of digestion are merely physiological:
you can take them or leave them. The facts of sex are not merely
physiological: and it is perilous, either to take them or to leave them.
Of course, the incurious child is more easy to talk to, more easy
to get on with, than the inquisitive child; but we can hardly
wish all boys and girls from 14 to 18 to remain thus childish in
their knowledge of themselves. I do not believe that what we call
“innocence” is any sure protection to boys or to girls against impure
or perverted ways in adolescence. Indeed, I am inclined to believe that
innocence, or ignorance, may even betray them instead of protecting
them.
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