The native in his raw state gained such an acquaintance with the
languages of neighbouring tribes as to be able to communicate freely
with them; and in many of their folk-lore stories there are sentences
taken from other languages and scattered through the tales like French
phrases in a fashionable novel. We have found, as a rule, that lads who
came to us at fourteen or fifteen made very slow progress in our
schools, and seldom reached the higher classes. They lost heart at their
difficulties, and left school—there were exceptions, but such as only go
to prove the rule. I think it would not be difficult to prove that
English lads at the age of fourteen or fifteen need constant spurring by
teacher, father, or guardian, or a much larger proportion of them would
lose the knowledge they had acquired in their schools.
When I had almost finished building the three-room bungalow in which I
hoped to spend many years with my devoted wife, I began to build a
kitchen, and the natives, seeing a smaller house being built in
proximity to the larger one, said: “That is where the white man is going
to put his wife, while he will, of course, live in the large house.”
“No,” we answered; “that is the cook-house. My wife will live here in
this house when she arrives.”
“You would not be so foolish, white man,” they inquired, “as to put a
woman in this fine house? You will send her to live in that small one,
will you not?” And there was a certain amount of anxiety in their tones
rather indicative of their fear that I was going to upset the proper
order of domestic life by allowing a woman to live on equality with
myself.
They would scarcely believe me until they saw the stove fixed in the
cook-house, and my wife installed with me on equal terms in what they
called my “fine house,” which was only a three-roomed cottage with a
verandah on two sides.
The Boloki’s regard for women was a strange contradiction. I have seen
them walking—man and wife—with their arms around each other’s waist, as
though they were a couple of English lovers crossing a common in the
twilight. I never saw natives exhibit so much fondling and affection for
each other as was shown among those erstwhile cannibals. Ninety per cent
of their quarrels were about women, for every man who had one or more
wives bitterly resented any interference with his sole proprietorship in
them. They would fondle their women, yet treat them contemptuously as
inferiors; they would fight to assert their rights of ownership in them,
yet regard them as so greatly beneath them as to send them to eat their
food by themselves out of sight; and they would slave to collect
sufficient goods to pay the marriage money for their free wives, or to
procure the price of their slave wives, yet the former they would thrash
unmercifully, and the latter, for a whim or in a fit of temper, they
would murder and fling the corpse into the river, or invite their
neighbours to feast with them on the body.
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