An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
not insisted on, and made a first Rule of Action, few things can be
right. As Medicines are generally nauseous, a Repugnance to take them is
as natural as shrinking at Pain; notwithstanding this, where they are
really necessary, and unless they are so, nobody ought to be troubled
with them, a Child at any Age, from the very Day it is born, till it is
a Man or Woman, may, and ought to be made to take them. But to do this
Parents must set out right; they must have the Child under Command. That
every Parent is actuated by a Principle of preserving the Life of their
Child, I will take for granted; but this is not enough: they must go on
to the Execution of the Means. The Infant of a Day shews its Repugnance
to swallow a few Grains of Rhubarb; the Child of a Year will twist it’s
Head about every Way it can, that the Spoon or Cup which contains the
Dose may not reach it’s Mouth; and by the time it is three or four Years
old, it will probably dash the Cup out of the Hand of those who offer
the Potion, or tell them in plain Terms it won’t take it. Now, without
mentioning the Consequence this may be of to it’s Health or Life, there
is another of great Importance; namely, that a Child thus used to get
the better of all about it, and convinced it can conquer it’s Parents,
is seldom disposed to conquer itself; so that where Self-will is very
strong, Reason will doubtless be weak; and only serve to aggravate the
Fault by fixing an Error, perhaps for Life. Yet great as all these
Difficulties appear, they vanish at the Entrance of Reflection and
Resolution. If Parents consider that they are bound by every Tye to make
their Children obey, and then resolve to fulfil this Obligation, the
Business is done: therefore with regard to Medicines, what have they
more to do? Nothing but the Execution, which may be effected with Ease.
For Example, take a Child from it’s Birth to the Age of twenty-one, and
divide this Time into three, not equal parts, but States; call the first
the unresisting State; the second the State of Cunning; and the third
the State of Reason. The first is extremely short, we cannot count it
by Years, and scarcely by Months; nor is there any Trouble here with
Medicines, but putting a Spoon or Cup to it’s Mouth, and holding the
Head back ’till the Dose is swallowed. The second State lasts long; and
tho’ soft and winning Words are always to be preferred, yet they seldom
succeed here; a serious Countenance and a resolute Air are the surest
Means to conquer; and these maintained, there is nothing to fear. The
Difficulties of the third State, that of Reason, are greatly lessened by
the Success of the preceding; for a Child habituated to obey, looks back
with Pleasure on it’s Compliance with every reasonable Command; and tho’
it before obey’d and took Medicines, because it must, it now takes them
because it ought.
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