An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
I have already recommended that Parents study to win their Children’s
Hearts; and it is on this Principle, that Love be made to take the
deepest Root in them. Love and Fear are two great Springs of human
Actions; both which must be maintained, both should by turns appear,
but Love must be predominant. Would Parents make their Children good,
let them daily instill into them that noble Motive, Love. Would they
make their Children happy, let them prove they desire it, by shewing
their Love to them. Would they make Duty a Pleasure, let them teach
their Children to love it, by teaching them a chearful Obedience. In
the whole Oeconomy of human Life nothing is so essential to Happiness
as this Principle; for as all Actions are, or should be guided by some
Principle or other, so those which have a generous well-directed Love for
their Motive, bid fairest for attaining that genuine Happiness, which
all aspire at, but so few find. Hence it is easy to see how necessary
it is for Parents to cherish in their Children this great Principle of
Virtue and Happiness; ’tis this keeps their Duty awake, and turns that
into Ease and Joy, which otherwise would be a Burthen and a Pain; ’tis
this that stems the Torrent of irregular Actions, and checks the rising
Passions of our Children, by producing in them the opposite Effect, Fear;
that is, a Fear of offending. Of all the important Steps necessary for
forming the Minds of Children, and for conducting them thro’ Life with
Happiness to themselves and others, nothing is more truly so, than the
animating their Actions with well-tempered Affection; it makes them
open, generous, and noble; and it takes off that Narrowness of Mind and
Heart, so disadvantageous to themselves, and so detrimental to Society:
for in proportion to the Affection they prove for their Parents, so
much will they increase in what in their future Lives they bestow upon
others. Children who love their Parents as they ought, will seldom fail
to diffuse in social Life a general Affection around them; they will
love their Husbands, their Wives, their Children, and their Friends: nay
they will love the whole human Race, by promoting, in some Degree or
other, the Good of every one within their Reach. Such are the Benefits
arising from a Love founded on just Principles; such the Force of this
Heaven-born Quality!
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