An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
I have observed that Fear is another great Spring of human Actions; and
were it only such a Fear as Love creates, it would be truly laudable.
But Experience too sadly proves how much Mankind are actuated by a
Fear of Pain, Disgrace, and Poverty; a Fear which, in it’s Nature, is
servile, mean, and base; such as Parents should seriously endeavour
to banish from their Children’s Breasts. It may be reasonably asked,
whether this Baseness, this unworthy Fear, so visible in the Majority of
Men, be natural or acquired? When we view indeed our Children in some
Individuals, and see them forsake every generous Offer of being happy,
and cling immoveably to sordid Meanness, we may, in these Instances,
conclude it is Nature; but when we consider them in the Lump, and take
a general Survey of the Principles which guide their Actions, we must
surely own it is in great Measure acquired: that is, the Dignity of Man
is debased, in an almost constant Succession from Father to Son, by the
false Estimation we make of Happiness; by forsaking Reason’s purest
Streams, to follow our corrupt Passions.
To evince this, let me here descend a little to Particulars. Parents
desire their Children’s Happiness, (I say nothing of those Monsters
who neither feel nor act the Parent’s Part) but how do they attempt to
reach it? certainly in a Path the most remote from it. No sooner have
Children a Place on the great Stage of the World, but their Will is
irregularly cherished; before they know where they are, or know to what
End they have a Being, their tender Minds are impressed with Principles
as opposite to Happiness as Light to Darkness. Who first awakens in them
a Spirit of Resentment and fierce Revenge, even before they can speak?
Those who beat the Floor, the Chair, the Table, or whatever little Master
has heedlessly run against, and hurt himself with. Who first inflames
their Vanity, by kindling in them Self-admiration, and a Passion for
Dress? Those who set out with teaching Miss to admire herself only
because she is fine. Who is it raises in them a Thirst of Gain, an early,
and a sordid Love of Money? Those who give a mean Reward the Preference
to Virtue; or who, by direct or oblique Insinuations, persuade them
that there is no Happiness but in Riches. Who, in a Word, exposes them
to the Fury of every tempestuous Passion, by opening the Flood-gates of
irregular Pleasures? Those who indulge them in every thing they ask;
who never contradict their Humour, however irregular; or who neglect
to curb their Passions, and subject them to Reason. From this View of
the too general Conduct of Parents, we may with Reason infer that Fear,
the Spring which actuates the Majority of Mankind, is more acquired
than natural: for where inordinate Desires are cherished, a Fear of
not obtaining what we wish, or of losing what we possess, produces many
Actions unworthy ourselves: Actions not only unjustifiable, but which
constitute certain Misery under the Mask of Happiness.
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