An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
To obviate then these Evils, to prevent the Acquisition of a base, mean,
unmanly Fear, and to lead Children into the Path to Happiness, let
Parents, as I have before recommended, make Love take the deepest Root
in them, but as Fear will naturally by turns prevail, let them with the
warmest Zeal labour to make it a Fear dictated by Love, and guided by
Reason.
But how shall this be effected unless Parents act on right Principles?
The grand Obligations of Parents to their Children consist in teaching
them a Knowledge of themselves, a Love of Duty, and a Love of Virtue.
Whence it is evident, that the Attention of Parents to conduct their
Children as they ought, is indispensably necessary, even to the third
Stage of Life; but it is doubly so at the Beginning. It is a judicious
Observation, that he who sets out wrong is half undone; and tho’ this
holds good in the general Concerns of Life, yet it is no where more
applicable than in the false Steps taken in the initiating our Children.
For if Principles opposite to Self-knowledge, Duty and Virtue, are
either created, inculcated, or cherished, where is the Wonder that
Children prove the reverse of what was expected? or that while they seem
to aim at Happiness they find themselves wretched?
Those who build with Judgment, are always careful to lay a solid
Foundation. I will now hope that Parents are sensible that the general
Practice in the Management of Children is erroneous; and the general
Neglect of them unjustifiable. I will hope too, that I have here shewn,
however imperfectly, that Virtue alone is the Basis on which their
Happiness is to be raised. An early Obedience, a Love of Truth, a
spotless Innocence, and a becoming Courage, tempered with Self-knowledge,
make the Ground-work of my Design; of that genuine Manners I mean to
recommend. The Edifice however is still to be rear’d; that is, other
Virtues both general and particular are to be taught, and brought into
Habit: the whole Frame of Mind and Heart must appear regular, orderly,
and beautiful; not accidentally so, but resulting from Reflection; they
must be eager to embrace Virtue, and watchful to shun Vice: in a Word,
be always dispos’d to do what is right, and never, with Design, do what
is wrong. Here perhaps I should throw aside my Pen: if I have been so
happy as to convince Parents of their first Mistakes in this important
Work; those once rectify’d, the rest may be supply’d by abler Guides: for
I neither have, nor pretend to have, the Power requisite to display or
enforce those Virtues, the Knowledge and Observance of which make up the
Measure of our Duty.
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