“Considered as a need,” said the old man, “love makes itself felt last
of all our needs, and is the first to cease. We are inclined to love in
our twentieth year, to speak in round numbers, and we cease to do so at
fifty. During these thirty years, how often would the need be felt, if
it were not for the provocation of city manners, and the modern custom
of living in the presence of not one woman, but of women in general?
What is our debt to the perpetuation of the race? It probably consists
in producing as many children as we have breasts—so that if one dies
the other may live. If these two children were always faithfully
produced, what would become of nations? Thirty millions of people would
constitute a population too great for France, for the soil is not
sufficient to guarantee more than ten millions against misery and
hunger. Remember that China is reduced to the expedient of throwing its
children into the water, according to the accounts of travelers. Now
this production of two children is really the whole of marriage. The
superfluous pleasures of marriage are not only profligate, but involve
an immense loss to the man, as I will now demonstrate. Compare then
with this poverty of result, and shortness of duration, the daily and
perpetual urgency of other needs of our existence. Nature reminds us
every hour of our real needs; and, on the other hand, refuses
absolutely to grant the excess which our imagination sometimes craves
in love. It is, therefore, the last of our needs, and the only one
which may be forgotten without causing any disturbance in the economy
of the body. Love is a social luxury like lace and diamonds. But if we
analyze it as a sentiment, we find two distinct elements in it; namely,
pleasure and passion. Now analyze pleasure. Human affections rest upon
two foundations, attraction and repulsion. Attraction is a universal
feeling for those things which flatter our instinct of
self-preservation; repulsion is the exercise of the same instinct when
it tells us that something is near which threatens it with injury.
Everything which profoundly moves our organization gives us a deeper
sense of our existence; such a thing is pleasure. It is contracted of
desire, of effort, and the joy of possessing something or other.
Pleasure is a unique element in life, and our passions are nothing but
modifications, more or less keen, of pleasure; moreover, familiarity
with one pleasure almost always precludes the enjoyment of all others.
Now, love is the least keen and the least durable of our pleasures. In
what would you say the pleasure of love consists? Does it lie in the
beauty of the beloved? In one evening you may obtain for money the
loveliest odalisques; but at the end of a month you will in this way
have burnt out all your sentiment for all time. Would you love a women
because she is well dressed, elegant, rich, keeps a carriage, has
commercial credit? Do not call this love, for it is vanity, avarice,
egotism.
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