Analyzing Character: The New Science of Judging Men; Misfits in Business, the Home and Social LifeBlackford, Katherine M. H. (Katherine Melvina Huntsinger)
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Analyzing Character: The New Science of Judging Men; Misfits in Business, the Home and Social Life
Blackford, Katherine M. H. (Katherine Melvina Huntsinger)
Characters and characteristics; Success
At our suggestion, this intellectual young man gave up his business career
altogether and turned his attention to journalism, where he has been even
more successful than he was as a salesman. Needless to say, Hugo Schultz
is still breaking records on the road.
It is difficult for anyone who is not by nature friendly and social to
succeed in a vocation in which the principal work is meeting, dealing
with, handling, and persuading his fellow men. There is an old saying
"that kissing goes by favor," and doubtless it is true that other valuable
things go the same way. People naturally like to do business with their
friends, with those who are personally agreeable to them. It takes a long
time for the unsocial or the unfriendly man to make himself personally
agreeable to strangers, or, in fact, to very many people, whether
strangers or not.
If it is hard for the unsocial and unfriendly man to work among people, it
is distressing, dull and stupid for the man who is a good mixer and loves
his friends to work in solitude or where his entire attention is engrossed
in things and ideas instead of people.
INDICATIONS OF SOCIAL QUALITIES
Notwithstanding these very clear distinctions and the seeming ease with
which one ought to classify himself in this respect, we are constantly
besieged by those who have very deficient social natures and who are
ambitious to succeed as salesmen, preachers, lawyers, politicians, and
physicians.
There is plenty of work in the world which does not require one to be
particularly friendly, although, it must be admitted, friendliness is a
splendid asset in any calling. Scholarship, literary work, art, music,
engineering, mechanical work, agriculture in all its branches,
contracting, building, architecture, and many other vocations offer
opportunities for success to those who are only moderately equipped
socially.
If the unsocial and unfriendly are deceived in regard to themselves, no
less so are the social and the friendly. Again and again we find them in
occupations which take them out of the haunts of living men, where they
are so unhappy and dissatisfied that they sometimes become desperate. Why
a man who likes people and likes to be with them, and is successful in
dealing with them, should take himself off on a lonely ranch, twelve miles
from the nearest neighbor and twenty miles from a railroad, passes the
comprehension of all but those who, through experience, have learned the
picturesque contrariness of human nature.
It is easy to distinguish, at a glance, between the social fellow and the
natural-born hermit. Go to any political convention, or any convention of
successful salesmen, or to a ministers' meeting attended by successful
city preachers, or to any other gathering attended by men who have
succeeded in callings where the ability to mix successfully with their
fellow men is of paramount importance. Get a seat on the side lines, if
possible, and then study the backs of their heads.
THE HEADS OF POLITICIANS
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