Benjamin Franklin, Self-Revealed, Volume 1 (of 2): A Biographical and Critical Study Based Mainly on his own WritingsBruce, Wiliam Cabell
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Benjamin Franklin, Self-Revealed, Volume 1 (of 2): A Biographical and Critical Study Based Mainly on his own Writings
Bruce, Wiliam Cabell
Franklin, Benjamin, 1706-1790
Had you consulted me, as a Friend, on the Occasion,
Youth on both sides I should not have thought any
Objection. Indeed, from the matches that have fallen
under my Observation, I am rather inclin'd to think,
that early ones stand the best Chance for Happiness.
The Tempers and habits of young People are not yet
become so stiff and uncomplying, as when more advanced
in Life; they form more easily to each other, and hence
many Occasions of Disgust are removed. And if Youth has
less of that Prudence, that is necessary to conduct a
Family, yet the Parents and elder Friends of young
married Persons are generally at hand to afford their
Advice, which amply supplies that Defect; and, by early
Marriage, Youth is sooner form'd to regular and useful
Life; and possibly some of those Accidents, Habits or
Connections, that might have injured either the
Constitution, or the Reputation, or both, are thereby
happily prevented.
Particular Circumstances of particular Persons may
possibly sometimes make it prudent to delay entering
into that State; but in general, when Nature has
render'd our Bodies fit for it, the Presumption is in
Nature's Favour, that she has not judg'd amiss in
making us desire it. Late Marriages are often attended,
too, with this further Inconvenience, that there is not
the same Chance the parents shall live to see their
offspring educated. "_Late Children_," says the Spanish
Proverb, "_are early Orphans._" A melancholy Reflection
to those, whose Case it may be! With us in America,
Marriages are generally in the Morning of Life; our
Children are therefore educated and settled in the
World by Noon, and thus, our Business being done, we
have an Afternoon and Evening of chearful Leisure to
ourselves; such as your Friend at present enjoys. By
these early Marriages we are blest with more Children;
and from the Mode among us, founded in Nature, of every
Mother suckling and nursing her own Child, more of them
are raised. Thence the swift Progress of Population
among us, unparallel'd in Europe.
Then, after speaking of the fate of many in England who, having deferred
marriage too long, find at length that it is too late to think of it, and
so live all their lives in a situation that greatly lessens a man's value,
he comes back to what seems to have been a favorite course of illustration
of his in relation to marriage. "An odd Volume of a Set of Books you know
is not worth its proportion of the Set, and what think you of the
Usefulness of an odd Half of a Pair of Scissors? It can not well cut
anything. It may possibly serve to scrape a Trencher." With these views
about marriage, it is not surprising to find Franklin employing in a letter
to Joseph Priestley such language about war as this:
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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