Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselvesSorabji, Cornelia
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Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselves
Sorabji, Cornelia
India -- Social conditions; Women -- India
Look at her, then, our little Hindu type of wifehood--gentle,
submissive, a perfect house-mistress, moving softly about the women’s
domain, “the Inside.” Up with the dawn, she bathes and worships,
worships her own special godling and tends her sacred plant, then draws
from some ancestral well the water for the household needs, scorning
no domestic duty. A picture good to see is she on these occasions--her
pretty red draperies girt out of harm’s way while she heaves aloft the
shortening rope with subtle grace. Mark the poise of head, the turn of
slender wrist, as the first shafts of daylight strike brilliance from
mystic amulet or jewelled armlet. Further domesticities occupy the
day, with perchance a little gossip in the house-place ere the evening
meal brings fresh need for a skilful house-mother. She waits upon her
husband while he feeds; silent in his presence, with downcast eyes,
to look him in the face were bold indeed. Perhaps he talks to her of
village or family interests; she would not think it strange did he not.
The boy! Ah, yes, he is a tie. Encouraged by her husband, she will
quote his sayings or boast his feats and feignings. But there is no
evening home life as in the land across the seas. After feeding, the
man seeks his men companions, with their talk or their gambling. So,
watch the little lady clean her pots and hie her safe to bed--content.
I would not have you think the picture one of shadows. Often, and
especially where love has entered into the contract, ’tis a twilight
study, softly lustrous. A wife respected as competent house-wife, as
counsellor, as triumphant mother, sharing her husband’s anxieties
for the upkeep and shepherding of their little family, aware of
his ambitions, if little understanding them, and happy in their
joint observance of orthodoxy--that sheet-anchor of safety to her
conservative soul. You must be careful how you dress this lady in your
picture. Wind her garments about her in established fashion, even to
the smallest fold; make the red mark of wifehood on her ample forehead;
oil her hair and plaster it tightly down behind her ears; forget not
the ornaments for ear, for nose; and never, pray, forget that gold and
ivory bangle--“marriage lines” to her. About her toe rings you may suit
yourself. Some find them irksome, and anklets jingle pleasingly in any
case. You must make her plump, there has been no chance of exercise to
tone down outlines; uxorious, too selfless for vanity; placid, never
roused except in defence of her man or her brood, but with a reserve of
obstinacy which all the wild horses in the empire would fail to move.
She is the true guardian of the past; and uneducated, the true enemy of
Progress in India. This is our lady of the middle class. The peasant’s
wife has compensation, for often she shares her husband’s work in the
fields, and that makes common topic. Moreover, being unlettered, he has
fewer temptations than his wealthier brethren to live an individual
life.
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