Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselvesSorabji, Cornelia
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Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselves
Sorabji, Cornelia
India -- Social conditions; Women -- India
It was in connection with “Lightning-Beloved,” whose Mother was seeking
a husband for her four-year-old, that I came across the “orphanless
child,” as he was described in a petition. She explained to me that
as she was sonless, “Lightning-Beloved” must be married quickly to
someone without fortune or family, though of the right caste. He would
then be even as her son, and be supported by her in return for the
honour of an alliance. This extraordinary position, “domesticated
son-in-law,” as it is called, has been accepted even by adults, and is
very familiar in Bengal. I know of one instance where a man waited to
propose to the lady of his choice (it was a reformed Hindu family),
till he could prove himself capable of supporting her, only to discover
that a younger and rather lazy brother had forestalled him by accepting
the position of the “domesticated.” However, it was useless arguing
the indignity of dependence with “Lightning-Beloved’s” mother, and
one’s only chance lay in expounding Sanskrit scripture as to the
possibility of waiting for marriage till a later age. Unfortunately, it
is a question of Priest-gifts desired at this particular moment, and
counter-texts are produced for my consideration, proving that delay
means risk of a first-class heaven; so that nothing but the woman’s
faith in my assurance that I will use my influence with the spiritual
Powers to secure her the coveted position, nevertheless, saves the
situation.
For the Goddess of Learning is desired an adopted son, heir to a Raj. I
am pleased with this choice, the boy has a face like Rossetti’s Blessed
Damozel, and a charming disposition; and we have just been in time to
save a threatened repudiation of him by his adoptive Mother. It would
have been a dreadful thing, for having by adoption lost for ever all
spiritual rights in his natural family, he would, on repudiation of
adoption, be left without ancestors for whom to pray; and this, for a
Hindu, is terrible indeed.
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