American essays -- 19th century; Literature -- History and criticism
There is a story told of Professor Wilson, that one day, listening to
a lecture on education by Dr. Whately, he grew manifestly impatient at
the rules laid down, and finally slipped out of the room, exclaiming
irately to a friend who followed him, “I always thought God Almighty
made man, but _he_ says it was the schoolmaster.”
In like manner many of us have wondered from time to time whether
children are made of such ductile material, and can be as readily
moulded to our wishes, as educators would have us believe. If it be
true that nature counts for nothing and training for everything, then
what a gap between the boys and girls of two hundred years ago and
the boys and girls we know to-day! The rigid bands that once bound
the young to decorum have dwindled to a silver thread that snaps
under every restive movement. To have “perfectly natural” children
seems to be the outspoken ambition of parents, who have succeeded in
retrograding their offspring from artificial civilization to that pure
and wholesome savagery which is too plainly their ideal. “It is assumed
nowadays,” declares an angry critic, “that children have come into the
world to make a noise; and it is the part of every good parent to put
up with it, and to make all household arrangements with a view to their
sole pleasure and convenience.”
That the children brought up under this relaxed discipline acquire
certain merits and charms of their own is an easily acknowledged fact.
We are not now alluding to those spoiled and over-indulged little
people who are the recognized scourges of humanity, but merely to the
boys and girls who have been allowed from infancy that large degree
of freedom which is deemed expedient for enlightened nurseries, and
who regulate their own conduct on the vast majority of occasions. They
are as a rule light-hearted, truthful, affectionate, and occasionally
amusing; but it cannot be denied that they lack that nicety of breeding
which was at one time the distinguishing mark of children of the upper
classes, and which was in a great measure born of the restraints that
surrounded them. The faculty of sitting still without fidgeting, of
walking without rushing, and of speaking without screaming can be
acquired only under tuition; but it is worth some little trouble to
attain. When Sydney Smith remarked that the children of rank were
generally so much better bred than the children of the middle classes,
he recognized the greater need for self-restraint that entered into
their lives. They may have been less natural, perhaps, but they were
infinitely more pleasing to his fastidious eyes; and the unconscious
grace which he admired was merely the reflection of the universal
courtesy that surrounded them. Nor is this all. “The necessity of
self-repression,” says a recent writer in Blackwood, “makes room for
thought, which those children miss who have no formalities to observe,
no customs to respect, who blurt out every irrelevance, who interpose
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