Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
Nevertheless it is quite possible here to go from one extreme of
indifference to another of sentimental exaggeration. Even allowing what
George Sand says, that fear is "the greatest moral suffering of
children," the suffering may turn out to be less cruelly severe than it
looks.
To begin with, then, if children are sadly open to the attacks of fear
on certain sides they are completely defended on other sides by their
ignorance. This is well illustrated in the pretty story of the child
Walter Scott, who was found out of doors lying on his back during a
thunderstorm, clapping his hands and shouting, "Bonnie! bonnie!" at each
new flash.
Again, if, as we have supposed, children's fears are mostly due to a
feeling of insecurity in view of the unknown, they may be said to
correct themselves to a large extent. By getting used to the disturbing
sound, the ugly black doll, and so forth, a child, like a dog, tends to
lose its first fear. One must say "tends," for the well-known fact that
many persons carry with them into later life their early fear of the
dark shows that when once the habit of fearing has got set no amount of
familiarity will suffice to dissolve it.
Not only are the points of attack thus limited; the attack when it does
take place may bring something better than a debasing fear. A child may,
it is certain, suffer acutely when it is frightened. But if only there
is the magic circle of the mother's arms within reach may it not be said
that the fear is more than counterbalanced by the greatest emotional
luxury of childhood, the loving embrace? It is the shy fears, breeding
the new fear of exposure to unloving eyes and possibly to ridicule,
which are the tragedy of childhood.
In addition to these extraneous aids children are provided by Nature
with capacities of self-defence. I have pointed out that the impulses of
curiosity and fear lie close together in a child's mind, so that one can
hardly say beforehand which of the two is going to be awakened first by
the coming of the new and strange thing. The eager desire to know about
things is perhaps the most perfect inward defence against many childish
fears. Even when fear is half awake the passionate longing to see will
force its way. A little girl that was frightened at a Japanese doll just
given her and would not approach it, insisted on seeing it at some
distance every day. The same backing of a timid child's spirit by hardy
curiosity shows itself in his way of peeping at a dog which has just
terrified him and gradually approaching the monster.
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