Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
Such fits of temper, as we call them, vary in their manner from child to
child. Thus, whereas one little boy would savagely bite or roll on the
floor, his sister was accustomed to dance about and stamp. They vary
greatly too in their frequency and their force. Some children show in
their anger little if anything of savage furiousness. It is to be added,
that with those who do show it, it is wont in most cases to appear only
for a limited period.
The resemblance of this fierce anger to the fury of the savage and of
the brute can hardly fail to be noticed. Here indeed, as is illustrated
in the good hymn of our nursery days, which bids us leave biting to the
dogs, we see most plainly how firmly planted an animal root lies at the
bottom of our proud humanity. Ages of civilisation have not succeeded in
eradicating some of the most characteristic and unpleasant impulses of
the brute.
At the same time a child's passionateness is more than a brute instinct.
He suffers consciously; he realises himself in lonely antagonism to a
world. This is seen in the bodily attitude of dejection which often
follows the more vigorous stage of the fit, when the little Ishmaelite,
growing aware of the impotence of his anger, is wont to throw himself on
the floor and to hide his head in solitary wretchedness. This
consciousness of absolute isolation and hostility reaches a higher phase
when the opposing force is distinctly apprehended as human will. A dim
recognition of the stronger will facing him brings the sense of injury,
of tyrannous power.
Now this feeling of being injured and oppressed is human, and is fraught
with moral possibilities. It is not as yet morally good; for the sense
of injury is capable of developing, and may actually turn by-and-by
into, hatred. Yet, as we shall see, it holds within itself a promise of
something higher.
This predominance of self, this kinship with the unsocial brute, which
shows itself in these germinal animosities, seems to be discoverable
also in the unfeelingness of children. A common charge against them from
those who are not on intimate terms with them, and sometimes, alas, from
those who are, is that they are heartless and cruel.
That children often appear to the adult as unfeeling as a stone, is, I
suppose, incontestable. The troubles which harass and oppress the mother
may leave her small companion quite unconcerned. He either goes on
playing with undisturbed cheerfulness, or he betrays a momentary
curiosity about some trivial circumstance of her affliction which is
worse than the absorption in play through its tantalising want of any
genuine feeling. If, for example, she is ill, the event is interesting
to him merely as supplying him with new treats. A little boy of four,
after spending half an hour in his mother's sick-room, coolly informed
his nurse: "I have had a very nice time, mamma's ill!" The order of the
two statements is significant of the common attitude of mind of children
towards others' sufferings.
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