Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
This mania for correction shows itself too in relation to the
authorities themselves. A collection of rebukes and expositions of moral
precept supplied by children to their erring parents would be amusing
and suggestive. Here is an example: A boy of two--the moral instruction
of parents by the child begins betimes--would not go to sleep when
bidden to do so by his father and mother. At length the father, losing
patience, addressed him with a man's fierce emphasis. This mode of
admonition so far from cowering the child simply offended his sense of
propriety, for he rejoined: "You s'ouldn't, s'ouldn't, Assum (_i.e._,
'Arthur,' the father's name), you s'ould speak nicely".
We may now turn to what some will regard as still clearer evidence of a
law-fearing instinct in children, _viz._, their spontaneous
self-submission to its commands. We are apt to think of these little
ones as doing right only when under compulsion: but this is far from the
truth. A very young child will show the germ of a disposition freely to
adopt a law. A little girl, when only twenty months old, would, when
left by her mother alone in a room, say to herself: "Tay dar" (Stay
there). About the same time, after being naughty and squealing "like a
railway-whistle," she would after each squeal say in a deep voice, "Be
dood, Babba" (her name). In like manner the little boy often quoted at
the age of twenty months said to himself when walking down the garden,
"Sonny darling, mind nettles". Here, no doubt, we see quaint mimicries
of the mother's fashion of control, but they seem, too, to indicate a
movement in the direction of self-control.
Very instructive here is the way in which children will voluntarily come
and submit themselves to our discipline. The girl just quoted, when
less than two years old, would go to her mother and confess some piece
of naughtiness and suggest the punishment. A little boy aged two years
and four months was deprived of a pencil from Thursday to Sunday for
scribbling on the wall-paper. His punishment was, however, tempered by
permission to draw when taken downstairs. On Saturday he had finished a
picture downstairs which pleased him. When his nurse fetched him she
wanted to look at the drawing, but the boy strongly objected, saying:
"No, Nanna (name for nurse), look at it till Sunday". And sure enough
when Sunday came, and the pencil was restored to him, he promptly showed
nurse his picture.
That there is this tendency to fall in with punishment for breach of
rule is borne out by some recent questionings of school children in
America as to their views of the justice of their punishments. The
results appear to show that they regard a large part of their
corrections for naughtiness as a matter of course, the younger ones
being apparently harsher in their views of what constitutes a proper
punishment than the older ones.
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