Before we go on to enquire where the disturbances in it arise, we will
let ourselves digress from the point that love was one of the founders
of culture and so fill a gap left in our previous discussion. We
said that man, having found by experience that sexual (genital) love
afforded him his greatest gratification, so that it became in effect a
prototype of all happiness to him, must have been thereby impelled to
seek his happiness further along the path of sexual relations, to make
genital erotism the central point of his life. We went on to say that
in so doing he becomes to a very dangerous degree dependent on a part
of the outer world, namely, on his chosen love-object, and this exposes
him to most painful sufferings if he is rejected by it or loses it
through death or defection. The wise men of all ages have consequently
warned us emphatically against this way of life; but in spite of all it
retains its attraction for a great number of people.
A small minority are enabled by their constitution nevertheless
to find happiness along the path of love; but far-reaching mental
transformations of the erotic function are necessary before this is
possible. These people make themselves independent of their object’s
acquiescence by transferring the main value from the fact of being
loved to their own act of loving; they protect themselves against loss
of it by attaching their love not to individual objects but to all
men equally, and they avoid the uncertainties and disappointments of
genital love by turning away from its sexual aim and modifying the
instinct into an impulse with an _inhibited aim_. The state which they
induce in themselves by this process—an unchangeable, undeviating,
tender attitude—has little superficial likeness to the stormy
vicissitudes of genital love, from which it is nevertheless derived.
It seems that Saint Francis of Assisi may have carried this method of
using love to produce an inner feeling of happiness as far as anyone;
what we are thus characterizing as one of the procedures by which the
pleasure-principle fulfils itself has in fact been linked up in many
ways with religion; the connection between them may lie in those remote
fastnesses of the mind where the distinctions between the ego and
objects and between the various objects become matters of indifference.
From one ethical standpoint, the deeper motivation of which will
later become clear to us, this inclination towards an all-embracing
love of others and of the world at large is regarded as the highest
state of mind of which man is capable. Even at this early stage in the
discussion I will not withhold the two principal objections we have to
raise against this view. A love that does not discriminate seems to
us to lose some of its own value, since it does an injustice to its
object. And secondly, not all men are worthy of love.
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