Courtship and Marriage, and the Gentle Art of Home-MakingSwan, Annie S.
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Courtship and Marriage, and the Gentle Art of Home-Making
Swan, Annie S.
Family life; Home economics; Marriage
Every home is bound to bear the impress of the individuality which
guides it. If it be a weak and colourless individuality, then so much
the worse for the home, which must be its reflex.
This fact has, I think, something solemn in it for women, and it is
somewhat saddening that so many look upon the responsibilities that
home-making entails without the smallest consideration. Verily fools
rush in where angels fear to tread! If they think of the responsibility
at all, they comfort themselves with the delusion that it is every
woman's natural gift to keep house; but housekeeping and home-making are
two different things, though each is dependent on the other.
This thoughtlessness, which results in much needless domestic misery, is
the less excusable because we hear and read so much about the
inestimable value of home influences, the powerful and permanent nature
of early impressions, even if we are not ourselves living examples of
the same. Let us each examine our own heart and mind, and just ask
ourselves how much we owe to the influences surrounding early life, and
how much more vivid are the lessons and impressions of childhood
compared with those of a later date. The contemplation is bound to
astonish us, and if it does not awaken in us a higher sense of
responsibility regarding those who are under the direct sway of our
influence, then there is something amiss with our ideal of life and its
purpose.
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VI.
_KEEPING THE HOUSE._
Making the home and keeping the house are two different things, though
closely allied. Having considered the graces of mind and heart which so
largely contribute to the successful art of home-making, it is not less
necessary that we now devote our attention to the more practical, and
certainly not less important, quality of housekeeping.
Ignorance of the prosaic details of housekeeping is the primary cause of
much of the domestic worry and discomfort that exist, to say nothing of
the more serious discords that may arise from such a defect in the
fitness of the woman supposed to be the home-maker.
For such ignorance, or lack of fitness, to use a milder term, there does
not appear to me to be any excuse; it is so needless, so often wilful.
Some blame careless, indifferent mothers, who do not seem to have
profited by their own experience, but allow their daughters to grow up
in idleness, and launch them on the sea of matrimony with a very faint
idea of what is required of them in their new sphere.
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