Courtship and Marriage, and the Gentle Art of Home-Making — John Shaqi
Courtship and Marriage, and the Gentle Art of Home-MakingSwan, Annie S.
General
Courtship and Marriage, and the Gentle Art of Home-Making
Swan, Annie S.
Family life; Home economics; Marriage
We of modern days are filled with a vague envy when we read of such
treasures as Caleb Balderstone, Bell of the Manse, and various other
types of a class now, we fear, extinct--the faithful servitor, who
lived in the service of one house for generations and desired to die in
it. Perhaps such types had their drawbacks likewise, and sometimes
presumed past endurance, doing what seemed good in their own eyes, and
that alone. But all that could be forgiven, because, weighed in the
balance with a lifelong devotion and loyalty and love, they were as
nothing. A few Calebs and Bells undoubtedly still exist, but the bulk of
modern housekeepers know them not, and regard them as pleasant creatures
of fiction, impossible to real life.
Are servants really less efficient, less conscientious, less diligent
than they were? Or is it that we expect and exact more? Modern life has
undergone such a tremendous change, there have been so many upheavals in
relative positions, that we are inclined to think domestic service is
now regarded from a very different standpoint than it was fifty, or even
twenty, years ago. It is no longer regarded as honourable; those who
enter it seem to do so under protest, the result being a most
unsatisfactory relation within doors. Some blame education for this; and
yet it seems hard to believe that education, the pioneer of progress
everywhere and in all ages, should be responsible for such a distorted
view. Some will tell us that this very dissatisfaction is a sign of the
times, indicating the march of progress towards the time when all men
shall be equal, and no more lines of demarcation shall be drawn. Never
were wages higher; never, I am very sure, were domestic servants treated
with more consideration and respect; and yet the fact remains that girls
prefer almost any other occupation to it. They will stand for hours
behind a counter, suffering untold tortures from exhaustion and
insufficient food, content to receive a mere pittance, and subjected to
a system of espionage and bullying far harder to bear than anything
found in domestic service; and they will give you as their reasons, in
general, these: It is more genteel, they have their evenings and their
Sundays free, and they are not required to wear the livery of cap and
apron. These are the reasons, then; what are we to make of them?
Can we make domestic service more genteel; give evenings and Sundays
free; and are we willing to dispense with the badge distinguishing maid
from mistress? These are the questions we have before us, waiting an
answer; in that answer perhaps may be found the solution of the whole
stupendous difficulty.
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