Courtship and Marriage, and the Gentle Art of Home-MakingSwan, Annie S.
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Courtship and Marriage, and the Gentle Art of Home-Making
Swan, Annie S.
Family life; Home economics; Marriage
No, we want a more robust womanhood than that, sound of body and sound
of mind, in order that our homes may be happy and well regulated, our
children born and reared fit for the battle of life. A well-known
novelist, lecturing recently on the younger generation of
fiction-writers, remarked that Robert Louis Stevenson, in ignoring
woman so much in his works, had passed by the most picturesque part of
human life. The contention was perfectly unimpeachable from the artistic
point of view; but we aim, I trust, at being something more than
picturesque. While not disdaining the high privilege of giving the
romance and sweetness to life, we would desire also to be strong,
capable, serviceable to our day and generation. So and so only can we
hope to be the equal and the friend of man. But in this worthy aim we
have to steer clear of many quicksands; we must avoid the very semblance
of usurpation or imitation.
Surely we are sufficiently endowed with our own gifts and graces, so
powerful in their influence, that I need not enumerate or expatiate upon
them here.
Let us not forget that in true womanliness is our strength, and that the
end of our being is to comfort and bless and love--never to usurp.
What can be more melancholy than to live with a grumbler, to sit
opposite a face prematurely wrinkled at the brows and down-drooped at
the lips? I have in my mind's eye, as perhaps you have in yours, such a
woman, tied to the best of good fellows, who, through no fault of his
own, has not as yet made such headway in life as was expected of him.
And his Nemesis sits at home, querulous and fretful because her
establishment is more modest than her ambition, her possessions than her
pretensions. Life is embittered to him; hope has died: if love follow it
sadly to the bier, who can blame him? Certainly not the woman who has
been a hindrance and not a help, one whose reproaches, tacit and
acknowledged, have caused the iron to enter into his soul. It is such
women who send men to mental and moral destruction, nor is their
punishment lacking.
The ideal wife, then, will sedulously cultivate the happy spirit of
contentment, and make the best of everything, not seeking to add to the
burden an already overworked husband may have to carry. It is not the
abundance of worldly possessions which makes happiness. I can speak from
personal experience, and I could tell you a story of a young pair who
began life in very humble circumstances, in the face of much opposition,
and who, by dint of honest, faithful, united endeavours, overcame
obstacles over which Experience shook her head and called
insurmountable. And the struggle being over, the memory of it is sweet
beyond all telling,--the little shifts to make ends meet, the constant
planning and striving, the simple pleasures won by waiting and hard
work, are possessions which they would not barter for untold gold.
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