Empires and Emperors of Russia, China, Korea, and Japan: Notes and Recollections by Monsignor Count Vay de Vaya and LuskodVay, Péter
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Empires and Emperors of Russia, China, Korea, and Japan: Notes and Recollections by Monsignor Count Vay de Vaya and Luskod
Vay, Péter
Asia -- Description and travel; Eastern question (Far East)
The condition of women in the Land of the Morning Calm is abominable,
for they are considered as mere slaves, with no privileges or rights
whatever.
In the upper classes the children of the two sexes, as soon as they
reach the age of eight or ten, are separated from each other, the boys
being removed to the front part of the house where the father lives,
whilst the girls are left with their mother at the back.
It is considered very bad form for brothers and sisters to associate
with each other. The inevitable consequence is that family life, as we
understand it, has no existence there.
The Korean regards his wife as a being far below him, and would not
think for a moment of consulting her on anything of consequence.
Although man and wife live under the same roof they are practically
aliens to each other. But strange to say, though women in Korea have no
rights, either social or within their own family circle, they are
outwardly respected and addressed in terms of high esteem.
If we consider that the bride has innumerable duties to observe towards
her consort, while he has none towards her, it seems only natural that
the number of happy unions is strictly limited. But notwithstanding the
abnormal relations that exist between the parents, the children are
brought up by the mother to respect their father deeply. Disrespect
towards the mother is of no consequence, but insubordination to the
father is severely punished. In prison, sickness, or old age, a father
can always rely on the assistance and support of his son. No virtue in
Korea is esteemed more than filial devotion.
A peculiarity of a Korean marriage is that it is a matter of interest to
every one except the parties mostly concerned, who see one another for
the first time at the beginning of the ceremony. The parents and friends
arrange the match, in accordance with their own interests, and if both
parties agree and the bargain is concluded, the formalities are of the
simplest. There is no religious ceremony and no legal contract. Early in
the morning the best man arrives to tie the bridegroom's pigtail in a
knot on the top of his head, and this not only remains for ever as an
outward and visible sign of his condition, but entitles him to be
treated as a man and to enter public life. He may be a mere child, just
over ten years of age, but he has no longer any right to play with his
friends and must choose his associates among old men--octogenarians they
may be. He has all civil rights and is expected to behave accordingly.
If, on the contrary, a man is unable to afford the luxury of a home and
a wife, he may reach the age of fifty, but he must still wear his
pigtail down his back, has none of the advantages of a citizen, and is
expected to play with kites, marbles, and such-like, and any folly he
may commit is excused, as would be the naughtiness of a baby, who is not
responsible for his actions.
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